by Bonachichi
Just today, I realized I am no longer a “me”. I am a “we”. For some time, I’ve been living the single lifestyle. Even when I was “married”, I lived it. Everything I had was mine. Only mine. My guy is working in Hawaii at the moment. Hazard duty, for sure. He sent me a message asking where he could download some software he needed in a pinch. He’s done this before, using my accounts and I thought nothing of it. But today, when I told him where to get his goodies, I used the word, “our”. As in, “our account”.
What happened? When did I go from me to we? My to our? Neither one of us even thinks about where we’ll be a year from now, or even tomorrow. We’re both in it for the moment. No strings. My feelings haven’t changed significantly, not that I’ve realized anyway. But at some point, I let go of what’s only mine and began to share it.
Did any of you have this epiphany? The realization that all of a sudden, your life became shared with someone else? How did it come about?
31 comments:
Good Morning~
Cute blog, chichi~ I think I became a we when the then boyfriend bought me a car! I thought....WOW.....we're a we....either that, or he was sick and tired of the hour drive to pick me up! :D
Good morning TINA!!
BONACHICHI - I definitely thought of us as a "we" when he proposed!! But probably a few months prior to that when Paul and his whole family were there for me when my brother died.
I hope everyone has a great Friday ♥
Heading out to get Dad a few things. His dr. suggested that he start drinking ensure shakes. He also prescribed a nebulizer for Dad to use at home. Just waiting for the clinic's pharmacy to get the liquid albuterol in.
Also hoping to see GOLDIE and her two grandkids today ♥
From Area 51:
DIANNE - I don't work today, but my youngest was on the computer working on his New Jersey paper. If I had known, I would've gladly sung for you.....SWAK ♥
Morning Afternoon Glories!
Mine has been an ours so long I long for the day when it is all mine.
Already had a Doc Appt to burn some crazy ass warts on my finger they went crazy. It hurts but I have to start using some cream in a few days and put plaster bandages over the areas. The damn cream was a 20.00 co pay, Thank God because even the pharmacist about spit out her coffee as it is 300.00 a tube. lord! It would be cheaper to get me drunk and just cut the damn things off.
Jodi sending hugs to you and your Dad!
God LynnD~ I know it's not funny, but dang you make me laugh!!!~
My "we" is my kids. "We" have been through a lot together this year and it has made us stronger.
Lynn, what causes too many warts? My son had a cluster for a while then poof they were gone and haven't had the problem again.
Happy Friday Owls.
Bonachichi, It was a long time ago, but I think I became 'we' when I got engaged. That was an easy transition as I remember and for 33 years it was that way. The harder transition was becoming an 'I' again. After my Hubby died, I caught myself signing thank you notes with both our names and I would have to tear it up and start over. It took a while to get used to just signing only my name. Now that I have been an 'I' for a long time, I think I would have trouble becoming a 'we' and sharing again.
Tina, It's so good to see McDreamy again. Lookin' gooooood!
Jodi, (((HUGS))) to you and your Dad.
Lynn, I hope the cream works.
Jennifer, I hope this year is better for you than the last one was.
Waving to all the Owls and I hope you are all having a good day.
LYNN - Thank you! I'd be happy to get you wasted enough to cut the damn things off.....wheeee ♥
JENNIFER - You have a great "we". I know it's been a tough year, but YOU are doing it!!
BARB - Your post made me think of my Dad. He is ready to get back to being a "we" with Mom. My prayer is that he gets his wish. (((hugs))) to you my friend ♥
Bobachi, I never felt the "we" with my first Huz. With him it was always "me me me"(him him him). Could be why we split lol!
With Mr Mary I think it was many years ago when he had back surgery and I was the only one to stay with him all night for 3 days. It was early in our courtship, but I new the a-hole was my "we" lol!!
Tina, you are so spoiled!
Jodi, I totally understand about your Dad {{hugs}}.
LynnD,I wonder many times how people without co-pay do it. Maybe they just go without. Sad. My eye drops are $60 with co-pay!
Jeniffer, I have thought of you and your children many times this past year. I am so proud of you. I may only be your Auntie, but I sometimes feel like your sister :) Keep up the good work!
SaBarb, you may change your mind on the "we" thing if you happen across a cute plumber, painter, 'puter guy, deliveryman...lol!!!
It's another beautiful day here in Michi. :):):):)
14 to make it even :)
Good Lord Bonachi I reall f***ed up you name lol!!
Lynn!? Where have you had ur finger?
If the doc used nitrous oxide to burn it will scar if you expose it in the sun....so put a little hat on it!
Udderly fab blog Snatchi.....I never became a "we"...just always a ME ME ME!
Jennifer, warts are a "self-limiting virus". Eventually the virus dies and yes, the warts just disappear.
I am loving hearing about all your we, I, you, them, it and us stories.
Mary, I thought you'd given me another nickname and I kind of like it.
DeeDee, I think you have a lot of "we"'s . However you spell that. Is it a word? Your prison friends, for sure.
Bon, good question! I think the "we" came gradually, as we began to realize that we wanted to spend time together... a lot of time! Then, when we bought the condo in Palm Springs together in 04 it really solidified. Now we had to pay a mortgage together! LOL!
*offers Lynn D a quadruple shot of whiskey, dusts off scapel*
prison friend "s"?? ...lol
Whabbear! While you have that scalpel out...I know someone who apparently has a burr in her butt...think you could get to that?
Jodi, (((MORE HUGS))) Sorry I missed your call.
Mary, Hmmmmm, I might change my mind.
DEE DEE - Damn near fell off my chair.....L M B O!!!
BARB - Thanks...and no worries ♥
25....good night HOoters ♥
BARB: left u a question in Area 51
I can't even think of being a "we" since I am not even doing well at being a good "me"
Hope you all had a good Friday.
Dianne, from A51, I have not heard of Traces, but if it comes here, I'll check it out.
Mo, You make a VERY GOOD you! ♥
omg....i forgot how much i loved Jack and Karen.....and Will & Grace aren't too bad either~ Good night~
MO - What Barb said ♥
DIANNE - Waving a wing at you!!
TINA - Ditto!!
bonach. Excellent blog! I'm sorry I didn't get here sooner but I am away at my mom's. I would like to comment more but I find it very tedious to type withmy thumbs on this BlackBerry. Right, Dianne? Anyway, I am very happy for you that you feel comfortable and safe enough in your relationship to feel like a "we". I don't recall specifically when it happened for me but it definitely came about with the feeling of assuredness that we both felt we were a team.
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