by Shirley
Which one of these pictures represents your husband or SSO? What is your definition of romance? What do you think your husband/SSO"s definition is? Were you swept off your feet? Did he carry you over the threshold after you were married? How did you or he propose? Since I've never been in love, or married I can't answer these questions, but I'm curious to read your answers.
37 comments:
1st
Hot diggity damn!!!
I would have been first but I was organizing my paper clips!
Morning Glories!
Shirleeeey you took a page out of Tina's book and got first! :)
My husband is somewhere in between those pictures. Can't remember how he proposed met through friends and sometimes wonder how we stayed married this long.
Mo I hope you are okay!! That wreck sounded horrible. Will try to call you later tater.
J/L I am very torn on the death penalty. As Deedee said yesterday sadly there are people who are convicted who were not guilty. The system is so flawed.
As for the men in the story yesterday. Hell is not good enough for them.
Shirley: So beautiful today!! :) You are a shining beacon of hot diggity damn gorgeousness.
My ex and I met because he was helping my Mom move. I was in a bad relationship and transitioned right to him. It seemed to work, we lasted 27 years...that's not too bad. Now, I can't remember what other questions you asked..lol..so I have to stop and go back and look and then continue.
Good morning DeeDee!! Good morning Lynn D!! Good morning Shirley!! Good morning all who fly in later...
Oh, on the death penalty I am a big no. I used to be a yes, but now I am a no. People and views change in this world and I have changed.
Okay..going to go back and see what other questions you had so I can answer them...brb.
No, not swept off my feet. I was 8 1/2 months pregnant for our second child when we got married. His father told him that he should probably marry me.. ha ha. So much for romance..we went to the courthouse, got married and went back to work. Woo hoo hoo.
But, hey it worked..we have three beautiful children and we are parting as friends..so it's all good and if not, in part, for him, I would not be where I am in life..so I am grateful. :)
Romance..I used to read romance novels when I was a teenager...heavily read them..loved them..romance... It's a dream someday to have that kind of relationship with someone that you would do anything for them and they would do the same for you. The key is that it has to be equal..or it is just really hard to manage.
xo..That's my story and I'm sticking to it. :) Love you all so much..
Bev
Oh my idea of romance? A cigarette after sex. Best after glow in the world.
Freaking day 7
you know my doc asked me once if I smoked after sex....i told him I never looked....
Romance? My ex was romantic. Then he beat the shit out of me 20 days after a C-section. Then he was romantic again. Then he tried to break my neck, leading to my 2nd C-section. Then he was romantic again. Then he threw me into a wall in front of my kids. I romanced his ass right out of the house.
I hope some of you watch Survivor, cause I have something to say about last nights episode.
Part of their camp burnt down in last night's episode. When they came back from a challenge and saw this I heard someone say, "OMG how could this happen?"
IT HAPPENED BECAUSE YOU WERE ALL DUMB ENOUGH TO SURROUND YOUR FIRE WITH 3 WOODEN TRUNKS!!!! DUH!!!!
The did this, of course, to try and shelter their fire from the rain.
BUT THEY WERE WOODEN!!!! WOOD BURNS WHEN IT'S NEAR FIRE!!!! DUH!!
Each season they have some questionable people on with regard to intelligence, but I have NEVER seen a whole tribe with no intelligence. Didn't ANYONE think this was a bad idea? Anyone? I guess not. Unbelievable!!
OK end of my rant, back to romance!
Good Morning!
SHIRLEY: Mr Z is somewhere in between these two guys. He can be very romantic..especially on birthdays, anniversaries and when he's in trouble..lol! He actually carried me over the threshold before we were married..but only a couple days before.. ;)
We met at the store where I worked..his brother was my boss. I remember exactly how he proposed..we were walking through the park and he suddenly got down on one knee..I know, I know..but that's how he is sometimes.
DEEDEE: LOL@ Smoking after sex..thanks for that picture..oh geez.. ;D
LYNN: Congrats on Day 7!!..ducking before you can throw anything at me.. ;D
BEBBI: I just love your attitude! :)
BONACHI: Omg..
From 51:
JODI: I can't wait to hear about the movie! 12 hrs..52m.. :)
Well the POUND POUND POUNDING has stopped..the roof is done and looks verrrry nice. I never realized how wonderful silence can be.. ;)
Mr Z had to take the car in again..he had fluids etc changed on Sat and now there's a leak somewhere..he's not a happy camper!
"It just goes to show..it's always something.."-RRD ;D
Shirley Hot diggity damn, you are beautiful today!
My first husband was extremely violent and I was told by him that we were going to Reno and getting married. I had no say in it.
Because of that relationship, I had no desire to be married again, ever. So my second husband, a cop 17 yrs my senior, and I had a committed relationship for 23 years before we decided, mutually, to get married. He was romantic at times and liked to bring me flowers for no reason and enjoyed getting me jewelry for special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all. One of the very last things he ever said to me was when he was in the hospital and I had just finished putting lotion on his feet. He looked up at me from his bed and said, "You're so pretty". He used to tell me that often even though it wasn't true. He was very kind to me and I always felt completely safe with him.
Bebbi (((HUGS))) to you. I had been wondering if that was what was going on with you but didn't want to pry. Change is difficult, even when it is the best thing for everyone. That you are parting as friends is such a blessing.
LynnD, 7 days!!!! Yay! That is such a milestone! I remember when I was at that point and telling myself that the worst of it was behind me. Keep that in mind, Lynn. The hardest part is behind you. Keep on going and never look back. You do not want to have to go through those first seven days again. Congrats to you! Good job!
DeeDee Don't you just hate it when you grab a paper clip and there's another one attached to it. You throw it back and grab another one and it has a second one attached to it, too. Infuriating! Evil little grabby things. LOL
Bonach (((HUGS))) to you, too. I'm so glad that that part of your life is far behind you, now.
Zona Thank you for the RRD reference. That really made me smile. She's one of my all-time favorite female characters. :)
Zona Loved Emily, too.
Oh Shirley~ Ur so HOT today~
My hubby TELLS me that he's Captain Romance......we all roll our eyes here~ (mostly cuz we all have two eyes each!) I will tell you tho....we knew we were going to get married.....I just had to wait for him to propose, but he had to ask my parents first, and I KNEW he hadn't before we were driving to San Diego for the day. I was so upset the night before...crying and all (shuddup DeeDee), cuz i knew it would be the PERFECT place for him to propose. (I read too many romance novels!) Anyway, the poor guy put up with my crying, trying to sooth me. The next day, off we went. We went to Balboa Park first. It was hotter than Hades that day. He wanted to walk across the street to the rose garden. I didn't want to, but I went anyway...cuz that's what you do when ur dating. We were in the middle of the roses and I sat down on a bench and when I turned my head back to look at him, he was down on one knee proposing. I started balling again!!! And this was before cell phones! I wanted to tell everyone, and had to settle for strangers! We spent the day there and that night saw Romeo and Juliet in the amphitheater before driving home. So I guess the fool is romantic!
I was by no means swept off my feet. In fact, I did not like hubby when I first met him. We became friends slowly for a year before we started dating. And yes, he carried me over the threshold. In fact, we took a boat to the reception, and he carried me off that too.
Now that I think about it, I think I'M the old guy on the recliner and hubby IS Captain Romance~ :)~
Bebbi~ I read ur post and said, "Huh?! Did I miss something?!" Hugs, honey~
LynnD~ maybe you just need to put something in ur mouth once in a while to forget about the ciggys.....try Mr LynnD's penis! Just a thought~ :D
Zona~ lol@RRD~
Bonchichi~ I can see you giving HIM hell~
J/L~ we are thinking the same today~...except for the paper clip thing.....DeeDee has Clipper to deal with her paper clips~ ijs~
Zona: Thanks..for here and there..and for everything. I LOVE YOU WOMAN! YOU are an inspiration to me most the time..very intuitive..very genuine. I WANT TO MEET YOU! :)
J/L & Tina and all: Thanks for the hugs. I appreciate them..sorry I have been so quiet about things..I am still not in my own place yet, but very soon. Bad time of year for it all but we are handling it. :)
Take care!
Shirley, Love the pics you chose for this blog. My Hubby was the one on the right when he was young, but he turned into the guy on the left, well not exactly. He did wear shorts a lot and he did have 'his' recliner, but he was half Native American and he had practically no beard and he was much better looking than that man.
My definition of romance changed over the years. I loved to get unexpected flowers and gifts, but now there is nothing more romantic or sexy than a man cleaning the kitchen or the bathroom. I'm not sure what my Hubby's definition of romance was but he did like to surprise me with special dinners and short get-aways. He would make all the arrangements, even getting someone to take care of the kids.
He did not get down on one knee to propose because we were in the car, but I loved it just the same. It was very spontaneous and he didn't have a ring so he asked me what kind of ring I wanted and we went together to buy it. I knew he didn't have a lot of money, so I chose a set with very small diamonds (more like diamond dust). On our 25th anniversary he got me a one karat diamond engagement ring and for my 50th birthday he got me a wedding band with five .20 karat diamonds. He died 6 months after that and I still wear that set on my right hand.
Shirley,such a shinning beauty today :)
I am wondering how you got my 1st Husbands pic (recliner). Before tv remotes, he used to sit in that dam chair and call me from where ever in the house "come here & turn the channel". He didn't have a romantic bone in his body! How did I fall for him in the first place? Fuck if I can remember!!!
Anyhoo, my now hubby is a "chair sitter" too, but he is retired so I cut him some slack lol! He is a cross between the two in your pic. Not romantic, but can be mooshy.
I met him at a bar after work. He was with a cute blond chick. I ran into him many times after that and I used my feminine wiles to lure him away from blond chickie lol!!
We married 5 yrs later. We were both gun shy from previous marriages. He didn't come out and ask me to marry him. He just asked, "wanna go to Vegas and elope?". We did. We had a large reception when we got home. We are still together after meeting him 38 yrs ago..the ahole ;)
Shirley-2, re:Survivor, I was actually yelling at the TV when they were putting those trunks around the fire. I can't believe those 10 idiots thought that would 'protect' the fire from the rain.
Lynn, Yay for day 7. Start adding up the money you are saving and that may help you to stick with it.
DeeDee, LOL @ you're smokin' zorch.
Bebbi, (((HUGS)))
J/L, It is true. You are pretty.
Zona, I hope Mr. Z had a good birthday yesterday.
Waving a wing to all the Owls. I hope you all have a great day.
there are some really sweet stories here today...i know what its like to lose your partner...
but the most astonishing thing is that your husband was able to carry you Tina....across a threshold and then out of a boat!!
I wasn't even aware that has worn a truss ever since...
Its just a good thing he didn't drop you....I wonder what that would have registered on the Richter scale.....OMG!!
KA-BOOM!
Good evening feathered friends!
Thanks for allthe kindness you have sent my way. I stayed with Sharon and Joanne last night. I didn't want to go home alone and I had no way to get home! One of my co-workers lives around the corner from them, so it worked out. And I got the TLC I needed!
I am very sore today and my now enormous thumb and hand have turned such pretty colors! Big news was before I left work tonight and went to the potty I was actually able to fully grasp the TP!!
They towed my car away today...very sad. I am hoping and praying they can repair it. I can not afford to get a new car at all. The repair guy said that the insurance company generally is better about repairing Hondas. He said if it was an American car it def would have been totalled.
So, if I may impose on you...please pray they can fix it. ZONA, light at least one candle!TINA, call your mom!
SHIRLEY...sweet blog! And sweet comments!
My ex, in L.A was not very romantic...or so he said. He told me early on he didn't believe in sending flowers or candy or poetry...yadda yadda yadda. After one particularly nasty fight (NOT physical) he sent me beautiful flowers. Then when he saw them he got so mad...he ordered PURPLE flowers and they were orange and red!! I assured him they were beautiful just the same and he probably was just not good at ordering, since he never did it before.
It was more of the little things that he did that I found romantic.
Tina--bawling not balling--nasty girl
Tina, sorry but not as satisfying. sigh
Mo so glad you are ok. Will pray to the God Michelin that your car will make it. :)
Had to leave the room. News was driving me crazy. So glad to see that our wealthy elected congressmen and women think it is ok to not extend unemployment benefits to 5 million Americans. They just don't deserve it you know. But hey the bright side is that the money not spent there will help the deficit.....oops my bad, nope they want to use that money to extend the tax cuts for that one percent of the millionaires and billionaires club! Wohoooooo
Wonder if they will buy xmas dinner for those 5 million unemployed and their families with the windfall?
Hi hooters,
Shirley, what a great topic!
MR. EBJ is neither. He is not one to sit in his underwear watching tv, and he doesn't dress up in a suit too often.
He is romantic, brings me flowers and cards sometimes. Leaves me love notes.
The proposal wasn't real romantic either, we both thought that since we were buying a house together that it would be better to be married!
I had been married before and had no desire to do it again. But I am sooooooo glad we did!
Our wedding ceremony was at the courthouse... we were buying our house and decided to not spend lots of money on a wedding and reception.
The courthouse has a small room that looks like a church. Some pews, a little alter, and flowers.
A woman who reminded me of Judge Judy did our ceremony, and it took about 5 minutes.
No celebration afterwards as I had the flu, and threw up in the parking lot of the courthouse, and then again in the parking lot of the restaurant where we were going to have lunch (Seaside Lady was with us!)
Anyway, it's been great and we are so happy we decided to marry!
OH! We had the same thoughts about Survivor, I couldn't believe they put those wooden chests around a big roaring fire.
I bet if Marty were there that wouldn't have happened!
I was very happy with who got kicked off.
Have a nice evening!
I was engaged once when I was 19 but we never married. He was drafted right afterward and our relationship didn't survive the separation. We were both too young, I think. The weird thing is that I cannot remember how he asked me to marry him. I have no recollection of it at all. That's pretty pathetic (or scary). I do remember he and I having a sit-down conversation with my parents where he asked my father for permission to marry me. We now email back and forth to each other several times during the day on our Blackberries. (No, it is not Custard, although we write, too). Anyway, I would be embarrassed to ask him to remind me of how he asked me to marry him. I'm ashamed of myself for not remembering.
Well I guess romance is still alive. That's nice to know. Thanks for all your comments about the blog and survivor.
Shout outs to DeeDee, Lynn D, Bebbi, Bonachi, Zona, Just Lin, Tina, SacBarb, Mary and Maureen!
(((((HUGS)))) everyone!!
LMBO Dianne~ I just knew when I wrote it that it was wrong! Bawling~ lol~ i told hubby and he laughed~
President Bush is here tomorrow for a book signing....I totally wanted to go, but I went by the place tonight and there are people already camped out...spending the night in the cold....i'm too old for that~ :(
Tina I can't think of anyone I would want to see enough to compel me to camp out overnight in a line. Nope, wouldn't do it.
People are camped out to get Bush to sign his book? Oh, my!
But I digress. I was definitely swept off my feet by Huz... love with a capital L was in the air, and I fell for him like a ton of bricks. A few months after we started dating, he told me he loved me.
I said, "I know", which kind of irritated him... it wasn't the romantic response he wanted!
Jim definitely likes to lay around in his underwear!
'weenie, hugs to you! And best of luck with the car repair. I have been lucky enough never to have been in a serious car accident. I think it would freak me out totally.
Dee Dee: As Jim Carrey would say, "Smokin"!!
BTW, are you going on Helen's cruise?
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