~ Out to Lunch ~

by Tina~in_ut

I went out to eat one Saturday afternoon, just me and my book. No kids or hubby to distract me. A little alone time…..I call it Tina-time. I was sitting in a little corner booth for two, right next to four girlfriends who hadn’t seen each other for a while. I can usually tune out everything around me, especially when I have a good book to read and a meal I love (Pei Wei). For some reason, these women caught my attention. I tried not to laugh when the one who had been married for a while (2 years), complained about her hubby. The engaged one couldn’t understand that! (she’ll find out!!!). The one without a boyfriend seemed to know everything (she has no idea)!! And then there was the one with the three kids. She just looked tired.

I tried to read my book, or at least look like I was. I did manage to eat. They started discussing having children. I couldn’t keep quiet when “engaged girl” said she really wanted to have twins. I almost spit out my diet coke when she said she thought it would be fun!! I told her what it was really like!!! And then some!! “Mother of three” just kept nodding her tired head. “No boyfriend” thought it couldn’t possibly be that bad!! With that I left their conversation. Well, I at least stopped talking to them! Lol~

The thing that really got me was that one of them, I can’t remember which one said it, but she said that she would love to be pregnant ….constantly pregnant. After she was done having her own kids, she’d love to be able to have other people’s kids. You know how some people just can’t get pregnant and all you want to do is help them, she wanted to grow and give birth to their baby. I told my friends and even my hubby the same thing a long time ago. As long as it wasn’t my egg or my husband’s sperm, and I was just the baby machine, it would be okay. The girls’ friends thought she was nuts, just like my friends thought I was nuts. I know that women are different and at the same time very much the same, but I never thought I’d ever hear someone else say something like that.

It was nice to see four good friends out for lunch catching up on each other’s lives just like I do with my friends and you do with yours. It made me think about all the women in the world, past, present and future that have done and will do this same thing…..sit around talking the way women do….the way women need to. Does that even make sense? I don’t think it’s the same with men.

It makes me even more excited about Chicago. We meet here each day to say hey, to insult, to seek and give advice, but to be able to sit around a table and share, laugh, and cry…..that will be fantastic. I sure hope none of you are axe murderers! I know Di and I aren’t. I’m not too sure about the rest of you~ We’ll soon find out, won’t we? :D