Maureen, our night owl chef
is the bearer of this question
for our daily blog~~
makes you think!
Curious
by Maureen
I am curious about how people define friendships. Is it different for different types of friends? Do you have one set of rules for real life friends, cyber friends, your best friend or just people you may hang out with but not share all of your life with? Can cyber friends be real friends? Do loyalties and convictions differ between the types of friends?
What is the meaning of friendship to you?
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And I really have to think on todays blog! interesting questions MO!
Good Morning Owls!
Wow Maureen, great questions!! I too want give some thought to my answers. Might need some caffeine for this one. :)
Lynn D: Congrats on 1st!
CONGRATS LYNN!! Wtg.
Yes,I'm still awake.lol.
Wow, great questions Mo!!
I have one rule for ALL friends in my life:
Never lie to me.
Yes I believe cyber friends can be best friends.
My best friend is a cyber friend.
She has been my best friend for the last 8 years.
We talk on the phone, exchange snail mail etc... but we haven't had the opportunity to meet in person .. YET..
At one time I don't think I treated off line or online friends differently, but I think that has changed now.
I think I am more reserved with cyber friends.
I find it difficult to talk about me or open up:o)
A couple of years ago,I travelled all over Ont. all the way to Colorado meeting people face to face that I met online.
It was a blast & I met some fantastic ppl.
PPl I had chatted with for awhile in chat rooms,web sites, groups etc...
(I've been online along time lol)
I hosted a few AOL parties in my home too. Ppl came from Cali,WV,NY,Ont,& Quebec.
Would I do it today...I'm not sure.
This blog is some good food for thought.
Thanks Mo, for leading me down my memory lane and feeding my brain today.
♥xox♥
Geesh it wasn't a couple of years ago, it was 4 years ago.
Where has the time gone...I suppose being sick for the last 2 years wipes out 2 of those years.
Oh I must go look at all my pics now of that time in my life.
Thanks again Mo.
Guess what Tina, my students are now in music class.
All my friends are completly different, because they fit all my different personalities.
Good topic Mo!
I am going to do some more thinking.
'Weenie:
I've got a "plethora of perspectives" on this one, but they're going to have to wait for tonight!
Have a great day, owls!
Happy Tuesday!! my dear friends.
Lynn - congrats on FIRST - you are getting pretty good at that!! :-)
Good Morning, Lynn, Amicus, Lovey, and Iteach!! and all those to post after I step away this a.m.
MO - your blog has brought up some very good questions... FRIENDS.. I have been in AZ now for almost 8 years and I still do NOT have friends to hang out with - it's really kinda depressing!! We live in a community which is extremely family oriented, so it has lots of young couples just starting their families or elderly people (like your grandparents). I have met tons of people, and have some "acquaintances", but no "real" friends. Noone to call and say - HEY, let's go to lunch or shopping or just call to talk - I find it to be VERY lonely living here.......
Since quiting my job, I don't have the "work social" anymore, so I discovered a "certain blog" and have made TONS of cyber friends from there - and like Lovey - as you all know - I traveled to Whabby's BBQ and actually MET them in person........ I keep in touch mainly thru email and phone calls. Now - I have the "nest"! and I appreciate you all!!
AND, sadly - since moving from Colorado - I have found that most of my friends from there - have moved on with their lives and when I visit - I just don't fit in anymore - we all tend to just keep in touch thru email and the annual Christmas card!!
SO - at my age - it is really hard to meet people for friendships! I guess life takes over!!
anyway - I've rambled enough - have NO idea if I really answered a question!!
I hope everyone has an excellent day!! :-)
Good Morning, Whabby - my dear friend!! :-)
Good morning Ladies!!!
Mo- Deep topic!!
makes me think too hard....
LynnD---congrats on #1....
Morning----
Amicus
Lovey
Iteach...
working today.. we are having a rainy day also... and I am on the east coast!!!
About the Blog...
This is first real attempt at blogging and joining in... I tried it last year on the "Big Brother"
live feed site... and I did it for like 3 weeks and nobody acknowledged me.. so I gave up...
MEK tried to get to go to The "interns" blog... but I was leary...
But since I have been here ... I feel like I have been here for years ..
And for live friends.. I had a best friend for like 20 years.. a couple of years ago she betrayed me pretty bad.. and we are still friends.. but it will never be the same.... ever!!! It took me almost a year before I could even talk to her again!!!
Sad but I think the only reason I let her back in was she showed up on a day I really needed a hug.. and couldn't help myself..
I had just had to put down my 12 year old hound named "Duke"(he was the last of a family of four!!!)
And I stayed in the room with him while the doctor administered the shot....
It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life... I was with him when he came into this world and I was with him when he left!!!!
that was 6 years ago. and I still cry over him and miss him very much!!!!
Wow... Need to get tissue!!!
sorry ... But Mo--- you started me thinking ... and sometimes that can be very dangerous...
Hope you all Hve a Great day!!!
MEK---
Whabby--
You came in while I was typing...
Sorry I was so long winded...
Good morning !!!
Gm again Owls
(((((((Mek)))))))u never ramble :o)
K so I'm back to answer the last ?
What is the meaning of friendship to me?
A real friendship (to me)is a give n take relationship with all parties.
It's not phony,false or based on bullshit or with a hidden agenda.
It's based on truth, kindness,sharing,caring and forgiveness.
K I think I have answered all the blog questions.lol
((( IB))))GM
**** handin u a tissue.
Good morning owlettes. That includes you Bear. Lynn D. congrats on #1.
Mo: What a great question. I have given some thought to this subject recently, which is what prompted me to write the blog CP posted on Sunday.
To my great surprise, I have met some wonderful people online(some in person and some not)and I feel that I can really call some of them friends. I have shared part of my life's experiences with them, but I am still a little reserved about other parts.
Recently I had a reunion with six elementary and high school chums, three of which I haven't seen in over 40 years, yet we picked up right where we left off at the last meeting. Oh, we had to catch up on the details, but it was almost like the years melted away.
I so agree with Lovey. My one constant rule for all my friends and acquaintances is DO NOT LIE TO ME! Even if you have to tell me that these pants make my butt look big. I would rather hear that than some fabrication.
I have a best friend and I suppose she knows more about me than any one else, but there are things I still haven't shared with her. I don't know why I have chosen to keep some pieces of my live private, maybe my penchant for control guides me.
My loyalties do not differ no matter which group of people I am with, however, I am always up for a lively discussion and I could change my mind about something if, given enough evidence, I am convinced it is better than my original belief.
OK, this is beginning to read like a novel. Sorry, I rambled on so.
I hope everyone has an excellent day.
Morning, IBB!! HUGS!! :-)
Good Morning to all my Blog Buddies who have already posted or are about to post.
Maureen - Great topic today. Thank you for bringing it to us. It is good 'food for thought'
My thoughts-
To me friends are always there for you if and when you need their support. In exhange you are always there for them. They are honest, loving, trustworthy and kind to others not just to you. I have friends that go back to school days. I also feel I have made good friends on this blog. As Whabbear once said, the people you connect with on this blog are probably the same ones you would 'click with' if you met them in person. Just as in the real world, the cyberworld has acquaintances, friendly people and true friends for life. I have met people on this blog that I truly believe have become friends for life. I thank God every day that I have found this special place.
The snow I waited for fell on every part of the island except this city so I guess I will have to wait for another time to take beautiful snow pictures. We had light snow falling when I went to bed but we have another grey rainy day ahead of us. I am waiting to find the first snowdrop.
Amicus - Your Valentine layout is gorgeous. It is luxurious.
I loved the song you picked too.
Good Morning, SacBarb - Hey, those pants make your ass look big!!! JUST KIDDING!!! I could NOT resist!!! I would NEVER lie to you!! OMG - I really need to step away from the computer!! :-)
This has me really thinking and I can't get anything done until I respond. I guess I will answer by question.
Defining friends is hard because everyone is different. Like Iteach said. They feed my different personalities and they have their own personality.
Is it different for different types of friends? I would have to answer yes on that.
I have two very close friends. One has been my best friend for almost 23 years. She has helped raise my kids and I hers. We have helped each other through some very rough and tough life issues. When I am swimming against the tide many times she has been my life preserver. She is so much apart of my life that we talk on the phone almost daily and we live ten minutes from each other. We can talk for hours about nothing. We laugh, we cry and yes sometimes we argue but always agree to disagree. Even the Men in our lives can't figure out what in the world we can find to talk about each day. Really it doesn't matter because in a nut shell we get each other. In many ways I am closer to her than my own husband. I know some of you are going what???? But it is true just for the fact that she is a woman!
The other friend I have known now for over 12 years. She is a totally different person than the first friend. Different personalities. Different interests, different lifestyles. She and I have very different personalities yet we connect. We laugh and argue and tease. Yet we have a very close bond. Yet is different than that with my first friend.
These two women have met and enjoy each other but just don't have a friend connection other than they know me. Yet they don't make me feel guilty about our different friendships and are ok with that.
I know with these two people that I can call them and say I need help and they would both be there. The help they would offer would probably be different or come in different forms. But they both would still be standing at my doorstep.
I am closer to these two women than most people in my own extended family.
What they have in common is that they are kind and loving. But most important to me. They like me warts and all! They would stand by me through thick and thin. They even understand me when I am distant or screw up or am just being stupid! They know my heart and know I would never hurt them intentionally but I will love them unconditionaly.
Do you have one set of rules for real life friends, cyber friends, your best friend or just people you may hang out with but not share all of your life with? Again yes.
For me this goes to trust issues. I have to fully trust before you can know all about me. Period. I had a post on an earlier blog that somewhat explained my childhood. I do not trust easily. I have even given my trust to people who have thrown it back in my face as an adult. So I am very leery. Because I am a person once I give my trust I am extremely loyal!
I am also a person who has always been open to others pain and need. So I have to be very careful how I absorb and process that in others. This has only become apparent to me when I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I physically and mentally can take in more than what is good for me.
Can cyber friends be real friends? Yes. Why not? Once you get to know each other and have gained a level of trust that is comfortable for both of you of course. Cyber friends remind me of pen pals. Does anyone remember those. You can write to each other for years and you may never meet but you have a bond that is on a whole different level! That does not make the friendship any less important at all. It is just another connection with a human being.
Do loyalties and convictions differ between types of friends?
First I am curious as to what convictions you mean? My convictions are just that with all of my friends. What I believe in is what I believe in. They may get challenged once in a while but that is good for me. I never reject a new way to look at things. If it makes me a better person.
The loyalty issue I hope I answered above.
What is comes down to me is that I am happy with any friendship! What anyone on any given day is willing to offer. Whether is is the rich deep tapestry of a liftime friend or the first few threads of starting a friendship or even just one thread of a casual acquaintance. Really it all in the long run, good and bad enriches my life.
What is the meaning of friendship to me? The only real rule for me is that I can't be friends with someone who intentionally tries to hurt others for their own pleasure or needs.
I am sorry for the long post. I just could not cover this in a short post. Actually I could go on and on, but I am quiting here.
Peace my friends!
LynnD First! Your long legs do you proud.
Maureen Thank you for this very thought provoking topic. I think we have seen an example recently of what friendship is NOT.
When you're in school you develop friendships there. When you are in the work force, you tend to develop friendships there. Once you retire, it isn't so easy to meet new people. Not unless you are a "joiner" and belong to clubs, which I am not.
This beautiful blue room that Carol has built for us is like a clubhouse of sorts. And the best part is that it's right here in my house! I can share as much as I want to or hold back if I choose. I can find laughter here or share a box of tissue and group hug. There are no judgements here. We all want the best for each other and give each other support and encouragement. That's about as real as friendship can get.
Excellent post Lynn. I agree with every bit of it. You write so well. A great read.
One thing I've already learned from today's topic is it's not easy to define friendship. :) It's something that's felt and experienced more so than defined by a black and white set of rules.
Trust is definitely at the top of my list. Being betrayed by someone you thought was a friend is one of the worst kinds of hurt.
Loyalty is important too, but for me, it's about being devoted to the friendship as oppose to always agreeing with or defending a friend's point of view or behavior. A true friend is someone I can be honest with when I don't agree, and there's a mutual respect for each other's right to do so. One of my favorite quotes is, "I have never in my life learned anything from any man who agreed with me."
I do believe there are different types of friendships and each enhances our lives in different ways. It's only natural that we tend to develop stronger bonds with friends who share our core values and whose personalities are in harmony with ours. But, I'm thankful for every friend I've met along the path of life's journey, because they've taught me a lot and helped to become a better person. :)
Just Lin - ditto for your post. It's great. I had better turn off my computer and go and eat breakfast. I could just sit here and read everyone's friendship stories but that wouldn't tidy my house or get the fires burning. You are all so interesting.
Amicus - I am so thankful for your friendship. You are a true friend.
Now I am going to turn off my computer. See you in a few hours. Love, Tinka
Maureen Thanks again for this thought provoking subject. I'm really enjoying everyone's posts.
Good morning feathered friends.
LYNN D -congrats on being 1st.
Thanks for all the responses to my burning question!!
I should probably tell you what inspired the question.
Many of you may know that I was hurt very badly on another celebublog site recently. People I thought were friends proved I was so very wrong. I discovered the true colors of people that hid behind the computer monitor.
I learned that friends put words (some ugly ones) in my mouth and attributed ugly actions to me, which I never said or did. I thought of these people as friends, friends I shared parts of my soul with. Then I discovered some people had their own agenda and were willing to compromise their convictions (or maybe they were lies all along)and their friendships for other reasons.
It was very disheartening to me. And I admit that I shed many, many tears over this.
I have real life friends, and I treat and valued my cyber friends in the same way. But I had to take a long look at those buddies I thought were my friends and learned that many of them really are not. I have put my guard up and am kinda scared to let new people in again.
I have made a few cyber friends that I converse with on the phone and I KNOW that if there weren't miles between us, we would be hanging out and laughing or crying together! We would be able to have frank discussions then turn on a dime into a fit of hysteria!!
I'm so grateful to Carol for creating this nest that allows for new friendships (YES, I do consider cyber friends FRIENDS) to be formed and old ones to be re-visited.
Ya know, I always made fun of my brother when he talked about his friends that he had on-line. I thought he was a little nuts...until I "met" some incredible people on line and hold them dear as friends to me. I guess he was right afterall (and that is rare!!!).
Thanks for letting me ramble on as I tend to do!!
Egg salad sandwiches
Tuna salad sandwiches
Chicken Salad Sandwiches
Chips
Carrot sticks and dip
Coffee
Sodas
cocoas
Cookies
now being served for lunch!
Enjoy!!!!
MO- does the chicken salad have pickle in it?!! LOL - cuz I can't eat pickle!!! :-)
Thanks for delivering lunch!! I only have scoops here - so I thought I was going to starve!!
Thank you for blog!! You really have gotten everyone's brain working overtime today!! :-)
OKay - I really do need to get off this computer!!!!!!!!
LYNN,
I have two friends that are probably my best friends. I have known once since high school and the other since right out of college. They have met each other and have a cursory friendship with each other, but as you said, the love connection just isn't there. Yet, neither one would ever in a million years question my choice of friend. And that's just one of the things I love about both of them.
I suppose it relates to ITEACH when she said different kinds of friends for my personalities!
SACBARB, I wouldn't lie about your pants and your ass! But, I'm sure any pants make your ass look like one hell of a piece of ass!
MEK, when I return to Los Angeles to visit, there are some friends that I have that we have moved our lives in different directions, yet when I return to visit it is like all roads lead to home. But there are others that just keep moving in on direction - - away. And if not for the holiday and birthday cards, the twain shall never meet. But I hold the memories we shared dear to me.
here's the real reason why I have NOT gotten up off this couch today - my kitty, who NEVER really shows any love - has decided today to curl up in my lap - she is purring and really being affectionate - I know, I'm a sap - but I just want to savor the moment!!! :-)
Maureen - I just had to check back to see what was for lunch. I love egg salad and chicken salad sandwiches. Could I please have a half a one of each and a diet coke. You are doing double duty today. Blog writer and chef. Does that mean you get double pay? I think you should.
Just_lin....
You said it better than I ever could....
I just got to rambling and off subject...
Tinka, I will share half and half with you!!! :-)
MEK It's always good to appreciate and savor the love when it is offered to us. :)
Okay - I AM going to end this little love fest with my Lilly - she's NOT happy - but I have to color my hair!!!
I was just going tell TINKA--- I would share her other halves...
MEK-- these same thoughts at the same time are to unreal!!!
Mo-- you really got the wheels turning today... good job!!!
I have loved reading each response ...
Well better get back to work!!
Good day... See ya Later!
Hey Tina, my students are now at lunch!
Speaking of friendship, do you know who I feel sorry for?
My best friend, who is my husband, he has to put up with all my different personalities all the time! :)
Mek and Ibebold - If you each take a half then I am going to have to order another one to share with a third person. We could be here all day. LOL
iteach Plus, he has to put up with each of us when we win the marches! What a guy! :)
Mo, the timing of your blog is incredible. I just this past weekend ended a 31 year "friendship". I just could not give any more to her. It has been such a one-sided friendship for so long, and I just could not do it anymore. I think this whole situation is why I have been having horrible headaches since Saturday. I, of course, feel guilty as hell, but it had to be done. She was one of those friends who only called when they were bored. But when you made plans to spend time with them, they would not show. Would not even care enough to call and cancel. She was the kind of friend that would flat out lie to your face. After the birth of her daughter I went to visit her in Nevada. I saw an ashtray full of cig butts outside on the porch. I said to her "I didn't know you had started smoking again." No big deal to me. But she said that no, they were her husbands, and that she made him smoke outside so that he did not get smoke near the baby. The next morning I got up and went into the kitchen and there she was sitting outside on the porch smoking. I could care less if she smoked, but she lied right to my face about it. To me, a friend does not lie to you. And she was doing stuff like that ever since we were in Junior High. I don't know why I remained friends with her. All of my other friends that I am still friends with from school had stopped talking to her years ago. I know I have hurt her this week by ending the relationship, but it had become so unhealthy. I could go on and on about things like how she moved to California after breaking off her engagement, and not calling me for over 6 years. She is a runner. Runs anytime she thinks someone will get mad at her. But if she would just talk to them, she would have found out that while people do get mad, they also forgive. I just don't have anymore forgiveness for her. I have so many good friends, 3 that I have had as friends for 31 years, 2 very good new cyber friends, and many new cyber friends that I am still getting to know. I consider my mom, sister, daughter and son among my best friends. But I would have to say that the person who is always there for me, I spend the most time with, I have the most fun with, and has been my friend forever is my husband.
I know this is long, sorry. But I do count so many of you as my new friends.
Thanks.
Barb
Barb I can relate to your post... and you have to walk away when it becomes unhealthy for you.
Congrat froggy, I mean lynn on being first!
Great questions to ponder Moweenie.
I always feel like my friends are in catagories. My best friend and I met about 29 years ago. Our 1st kids were born 6 months apart. Then our next were born 6 weeks apart. She is the kind of friend who you could say "Is that boil on my butt getting any grosser" and she would look and tell you. We only see each other 3 or 4 times a year- but it is just like we left off from the time before.
I have friends who I socialize with in the summer because of where we have a weekend place. But rarely do I see them in winter. They are my summer friends.
I have cyberfriends who I hold near and dear and who I know in a NY minute I could sit down with and feel like old home week. I already have met Jodi, and there are others that I would love to be able to hang with. Some who have proven their friendship to me by the acts of kindness and unselfishness they have displayed. Like Potato salad!!!
Not to mention hunting for the Sports Illustrated Magazine (thanks MEK and KFC)
I guess I would have to examine each relationship to see how I would "list" my friends- but I think that I do that anyway. I am guarded about whom I classify as a friend and who is an aquaintance that I am friendly with.
I think the most important gift you can get is for someone else to consider you a friend.
Have a great day all. I hope my computer cooperates when I am home tonight!
Barbara in WA There are givers and takers and this person is a taker. You tried the best you could for way longer than what was good for you. She is not capable of being in a real friendship. She was sapping your energy and it is good and appropriate for you to cut her loose. I know it is sad but she needs to learn her life lessons without you.
Good afternoon or morning. Still morning here
Lovey: I think it is fantastic that you could go and visit and meet all of your cyber friends!
MEK: Like you I have lived in places where I just could not connect with people. I always wondered if it was the town or me.
Ibebold: What I got from your post is that you are a loving and forgiving friend!
Sacbarb: I so get holding some of yourself back! I do that too! PS I would tell you if you had a fat ass and then I'd share a donut with you! LOL
Tinka: Thank you for your kind words for my long winded or wordy post! Like you I am so grateful for this blog and the friends I am making and meeting.
Just lin: So true about making friends at different phases of your life. I am not much of a joiner either. I do my volunteer work only because it interests me, but to join like the Lions or Sisters for under arm hair ( you get my point) just does not interest me.
Amicus: your first paragraph in your friendship post was so true and perfection!
Mo: It is hard enough when you are face to face with a person to know what is true and what isn't. Much harder through the computer. I am glad you are putting some protective sheilds in place. Your health first! Physically and mentally!
iteach: Mr. Lynn D would be my best friend except that I have to clean up after him everyday! LOL
I forgot one thing that is important in a friend. Top of the the list. A sense of humor!
Now I have to get something done at home. Yes that means scut work!
Joining groups got me thinking, I forgot I'm going to be a Red Hatter this year..lol..
Now there's a group I'm looking forward to joining.
hehe
What a nice topic.Good afternoon everyone.
Some of my friendships date back to the times we spent to High School in Germany together. We still visit each other. Most of the time they travel down to my area because I live in a warm climate by the ocean. One of my friends still travels to visit me from Norway. I think it does say something that over the years that our bonds have stayed in tact. I know this is do to the fact that we always shared a common thread of compassion, caring, trust, honesty and respect for each other.
The first time I met a cyber friend was 10 years ago on EBay. She would write to me every night and we'd type back and forth. Her name was Lena. She passed away from lung cancer.I still remember one of her last e-mails to me and she worried about me after she would be gone. Can you imagine that. She had stage 4 cancer however her thoughts were with me. So yes, cyber friends can be the greatest friends and if we weren't so far apart then I am sure some of us would be close like genuine family.I have met some wonderful friends during the last year from Ross's blog and his chat room and doing animal rescue across the nation. Big hugs to you all!
lovey and just_lin
thanks guys.
Speaking of friendship, can we all send love and positive thoughts out to DonnaJean and her Laurie. Laurie is having a follow up cardiac appointment today.
Lynn - YES, IBB wears her heart on her sleeve!!! :-)
Barb in WA - hugs AGAIN to you!! Love ya!!
Donna Jean - positive thoughts..
Lovey - I received my red hat last year - ugliest thing you would EVER want to see - I couldn't even figure out which way it should be worn!! Found out, my friend did it as a joke - thank goodness!!!
Goldie - I'm just sorry that I wasn't the one that won the treasure hunt!! LOL - BUT, if you ever need another favor - I'll be there in a AZ minute!!!
AND - my little love fest with my kitty ended up with her throwing up all over the carpet when we got up - that will teach me!!! :-)
guess what - I'm not getting my hair colored!!! LOL :-)
I have a headache from putting so much thought into this topic. ;) I always struggle with turning my thoughts into words. I'm in awe of those who do it so well. I've really enjoyed reading all of the posts!
Maureen: Thank you for opening the door to such an interesting discussion!
Ibebold: Hugs and a box of Kleenex for you. My heart ached when I read your post, because I can relate to the sadness you're still feeling over the loss of Duke. They take a part of our hearts with them when they cross the Rainbow Bridge.
LynnD: I love what you said about your convictions not changing regardless of the type of friendship. That's an excellent point, because we have to be true to ourselves first before we can be a good friend to someone else.
Tinkatia: This sentence, "They are honest, loving, trustworthy, and kind to others not just to you," is one of the reasons why I love you so much. You genuinely care about the feelings of others. You have a heart of gold, dear friend.
I wish a had time to comment on all the wonderful posts, but I have a hair appointment this afternoon so I need to hop in the shower. I'm still in my jammies. :)
Waving Hi to: Goldie, Barb in WA , Dreama, Just Lin, SacBarb, Iteach, Lovey, MEK, Whabbear, and all the Owls who will be stopping in throughout the day.
P.S.
Note to self: DO NOT give the SPOILER to Biggest Loser tonight - Dianne might have taped it and the west coast wouldn't have watched it yet!!!
Would it be okay if we talked about Idol auditions - or should we wait??
MEK At least your kitty was on the floor. :)
Like many of you, I have very different types of friends. There were 2 childhood friends that no matter how many years went by, we just clicked again immediately as if we had never been apart. I hope to see one of those friends in March. The other one passed away several years ago. I have one close friend here that I can tell anything to without fear of judgement. I have acquired a couple of newer friends that I have dinner with occasionally but I have shared more of my story here on this blog than I have yet shared with them. Go figure.
Now that I only work a few days a month I don't really make new friends through work. There are a couple of veterinarians and a former office manager that I get together with once in a while for breakfast. In fact, we are doing that this Saturday. It's always nice to have that time just for us to catch up with each other and share some laughs. All of these friendships, including you all, make my life better.
Just Lin: Thank you for the reminder! Keeping DonnaJean and Laurie in my thoughts and prayers.
lynn d, amicus, lovey, iteach, whabbear, MEk, ibebold, sacbarb, tinkatia, just_lin, mo, goldie, dreama.....
(((groupgrope)))
Barbara in WA Thanks so much for the group grope. That's the only kind I get these days. :D
I loved reading all your comments and I agree with every one of them. There are so many ways to describe friendship. I just want to say again that I am so thankful for Carol and all of you here for extending your arms out to me in friendship. It makes this old lady (term used loosly) feel warm.
And Tina~where the heck are you? I don't remember seeing you here at all yesterday.
DonnaJean and Laurie Elizabeth: Thinking about you today and praying all goes well.
And another thing, my ass is big, no matter what I wear. LOL
Mek ..Red Hatter, oh I can't wait to get my ugly purple n red hat.. with a big feather.
Waving hi to Amicus and all Owls!!
((( I'm always in for a groupgrope)))
LOL JustLin
LOL Hi SacBarb, and you can count on us to tell ya
hehe :oP cause I know you'll tell me!
"I think the most important gift you can get is for someone else to consider you a friend."
GOLDIE, that sums it up beautifully. And to give that gift is equally as treasured.
AMICUS, I am so sorry to have caused you a headache. It proves that friendships are so valuable that we sometimes go to great pains to nurture them.
There have been so many beautiful and heartfelt posts today (as always)and to think I almost told Carol to scrap it.
I do believe that feelings and emotions can run so deep regarding cyber friendships.
This may bring up some bad memories, but I remember a certain cyber friend that let us all believe that she was severly ill. One night, her "husband" posted that she was in a coma. My heart broke in a million pieces as I hurt for her. I started messaging with a friend and together we sat up all night long instant messaging as we waited for word. We cried together and prayed that we would not have to mourn together. I considered the sick buddy a friend. I am not Catholic, but I had happened upon a beautiful old church one day and I instinctively went in and prayed for her. We then found out that it was a scam. I was devastated, shocked, hurt and bewildered how someone that I thought was a friend could behave that way. How could she let so many people agonize over her. I learned a lot that day and night. But I also made a wonderful and real friend in Kahonugirl that night as we talked all through the night, about a plethora of subjects.
Ok scrubbed a toilet. Now I feel I can take a minute.
Barb in WA: I have had friends ships like the one you described. You really have to be strong and know yourself to break them up. To me it is not a true friendship if it is basically all one sided. You give and give until you have nothing left. Here's to you for taking care of yourself! That was a very hard thing to do!
Goldie: I love that you said the most important gift is that someone considers you a friend! That is so true and sometimes I think we all forget that.
Just Lin: Thank you for reminding me about Laurie's Cardio appt. Just sent up a wellness prayer! DonnaJean thinking about you!
Amicus: I was exhausted after my post!
Dreama: What a beautiful story about your cyber friend. It made me teary.
Ok back to more neglected housework. Or maybe All My Children or maybe reading or maybe....
Mo, that's the GOOD that came from the bad.
I believe for every bad, somewhere in that bad is a good, if we look for it... you found the good in that bad.
Friendship
A friend is someone we turn to when our spirits need a lift.
A friend is someone we treasure for our friendship is a gift.
A friend is someone who fills our lives with beauty, joy and grace.
And makes the world we live in a better and happier place.
There is a miracle called friendship that dwells in the heart.
You do not know when it happened or when it get's it's start
But you know the special lift it always brings.
And you realize that friendship is the world's most precious gift.
I'm not sure who wrote that, but I posted it in myspace blog a few months ago, and thought I'd share it here.
:o) I'm off to catch some z's.
((((Hugs))))♥xox♥
Lovey...
Excellent Poem!!
Lovey Thank you for the poem.
Before you can define friendship for you , you have to define what kind of friend you are. I mean don't we all want the same qualities in our friends that we feel we have? I will do whatever I can physically, emotionally and financially for my friends. I would expect nothing less from them. As for cyber friends (I like Rosie's term - " stranger friends") I can only be there for them emotionally, and I think I have been. I know some of my cyber friends have certainly been there for me, especially when I started blogging as Sad n' lonely. Many of you reached your cyber arms out and hugged me. Thank you. In my reality life I have a best friend, friends and aquaintances. In my cyber world I have many aquaintances and some friends. I can't say I have a best friend...yet. I have only been blogging for about a year (that includes lurking time too), but in that time I have cyberly (is that even a word?) met some really wonderful, kind people...as well as a scam artist or two and bullies. Purposely being rude and hurting people's feeling for shock value and you own kicks just makes my blood boil. Those who encourage it are just as bad as the bully. And to scam people...well enough said. There are all kinds of people in the world and there are all kinds of friends. Choose the ones that fit right in your life. That's all I have to say about that.
Tina, my students went home.
The blizzard is on its way, we were sent home a half a hour early.
Does Mo still deliver or cook with a blizzard on its way?
SHIRLEY,
How honest and from the heart you are. I remember your first post and I am so thrilled to see just how far you have come. I remember your first venture out to get bananas and it made me smile from ear to ear.
Your post today is right on, imho!
It is sad that we have to encounter the bullies and potentially have that hurt close you off from some really good people.
I'm glad we both found our way here.
LOVEY, I actually have that poem on a plaque that hangs in my house.
I think we need some decadence this afternoon...
ICE CREAM SUNDAE BAR!
Lots of flavors of ice cream, toppings, bananas, sprinkles and an extra large vat of hit fudge!
INDULGE! (TINKA, you have to the end of the month, so scoop away!)
No - my hair is NOT colored yet - BUT - I have been to the post office and my mom's house - was there longer than expected - her neighbor across the street passed away in his sleep last night - so alot going on on her street!!
Anyway - I took pics of the painting - SO, here's my owl pic..
MO - YEAH - Ice cream!!!
I have enjoyed reading everyone's stories of friendship!! :-)
(my mouse has decided to NOT work, so I'm back to the old way on the laptop - man, a person gets spoiled.!!!)
this is a close up of just the owl - there is a big tree in there also - I'll post that one later!!
Good afternoon! All of you have so wonderfully stated what friendship is all about! I've learned through you all that cyber friends can be "real" friends and I can trust people I've never "met." Thank you all for that.
Maureen, when you were hurt by a cyber friend, I was hurt. I didn't know anything about the situation but when you left myspace because people you thought were your friends betrayed you, it freaked me out! I always thought of you as kind, caring and normal and when that happened to you, that's when I went on my drama-induced myspace deletion party!
But, I'm so glad I returned to this place to see that those kinds of things are rare and that you all really are friends.
I'm an extrovert and so I have many friends whom I love dearly. They all fill a different need and I think I do the same for them. Last week I hosted a jewelry show and the consultant made everyone who attended say why they loved me. It was so sweet that I almost cried. It made me think we should all do that with our friends now and then.
just_lin, your new owl is so cute!! I kind of miss the little urchin, though . . .
Shirley, I remember your first posts on the rblog, too. I'm so glad you stayed and opened up. I can feel that you are genuine.
Maureen thank you. Check your email.
Thanks Sandie.
MEK I like your cute owl.
Sandie Thanks for feeding the little urchin last night. Don't worry he is being well cared for. He was a little sad looking though and this new one that Amicus sent me is cuter and makes me laugh. :)
SHIRLEY,
Check your email now!!
Maureen, I got it and I agree. Thanks
Left work early- it was sleeting like crazy and its only going to get worse. The snow has started....
Shirley, I remember when you started to blog and my heart went out to you for your pain. I remember being so proud of you when you ventured out and have enjoyed watching you become confident and a welcome member of the gang.
MEK- I love the owl. Actually, I love all the owls. But the mutant thing that lynn calls an Owl is my favorite (dont tell the others)
ICE CREAM SUNDAE'S on a tuesday afternoon when I should still be at work but came home early? YIPEE- now that is living!!
Maureen Thank you for bringing HOT FUDGE!!! My favorite!
SANDIE,
Thanks! I am sorry that my drama caused you drama.
I am glad that we have here to keep in contact and that we have each other's blogspots to visit, too.
I am still so moved by all the posts today.
♥ ♥ ♥
MAUREEN: I thought I would think about my perspective on your question while I sat and read the comments of others. I found that I couldn't do both. I decided to share my thoughts and then go back and read everyone elses, so I could give them the full attention they deserve.
I moved to AZ in 1966. I was only a child, but felt the hurt of being torn away from the only friends I had ever known in PA. I was sure I'd never make another friend. Of course I was wrong. We moved into a neighborhood full of young families and I established friendships that lasted through gradeschool, high school, college and after I got married. When my husband and I moved to CA., I found myself alone and lonely. It was difficult to venture out and make new friends. So I stayed in touch with the old. At least for a while. I found that distance started to break down those friendships though, and I was crushed. We moved back to AZ 13 years ago and I have reconnected with some people, and some have moved on. My best friend since third grade is still my best friend. The hardest thing I find is to call someone that you haven't talked to in a long time because at that point you are really putting yourself on the line. "Will they remember me? Will they want to talk to me?" It is a hard thing to do.
I was amazed when, only six months ago I started a cyber friendship with a very sweet lady I read about on a very funny intern's blog. She encouraged me to comment, and from there I got a myspace and have met some of the sweetest people I have ever known. People who ask you every day how you are doing. Who give you support. I find that I do think of these people as my friends. I tell them things about my life and they tell me things about theirs. I've talked to some on the phone, laughed my ass off with others. You get a sense about people through their writing and their voices. I may not share a long history with these people--like I do with those I met in gradeschool, but I care about them and worry about them and they are my friends just the same.
Did I answer your question? I don't know. I just know that when I do eventually meet the friends I've made here and on the other blog--the hug we share will be real and unrestrained.
MEK, I like the owl!
Zona That was beautfiul.
I've just now decided my owl looks like a cross between an owl and a hamster!
Well, friends, this is one of those days where I actually have to go to work. I'll check back a little later. I better wipe this hot fudge off my face before I go.
Good afternoon to all! Yesterday was remove old Norton & replace with new Norton on lap top and 3 PCs.I am "humming" now LOL!
I have pondered on today's question and still not sure how to answer. All of you were so eloquent. I am not good with words. I tend to sound soooo clumsy!
I have known my best friend for over 30 yrs. We sometimes go weeks without talking or seeing each other.We live 30 miles apart and have different interests. She is heavy into sewing and embroidering, while my interests are into music,sports and volunteering. I can't imagine her not in my life.We do love to shop & attend estate sales. To me a friendship is unconditional, but as others have mentioned,I draw the line at lies.The truth may hurt for a while, but a lie lasts forever in my book. I'm not sure how the saying goes "Fool me once,shame on you, fool me twice shame on me".
As far as cyber friends, my dear ladies (Bear included) you are it. I am not on any other blogs or chat rooms, except for my space. I am in Owl Heaven! !! Maybe some day I will venture out of the nest& back to Ross's chat room, as I miss my Whabbear.
Owlettes (and that includes our WHABBY!)
I have a thought. Now don't scared or mark that event on your calendar!
Since today we arfe celebrating each other, I was thinking tonight we could have a pot-luck for dinner.
I will supply the oven-fried chicken (some with skin and some without)and baked potatoes.
Whaddya say?
Okay, Maureen! I'll bring macaroni and cheese (Paula Deen's recipe!)--it's awesome!
Thanks on the "like my owl" - if I do get an owl tat - this will be it!! :-)
The hair IS colored - now - i can get back to my regular day!! :-)
Idol is on tonight!!
MO - I'll bring potato salad - it probably won't be as good as Jodi's, but it's my mom's recipe and everyone LOVES it whenever I take it somewhere!!! (ha ha, IBB, I beat you to it!!!)
I'm in! I'll bring a fresh fruit salad to the table. About this time of year I am longing for it and don't care how much the strawberries, blueberries and all the rest cost! You guys are worth it...:)
Home made cherry & apple pie!
MEK- I would love to be the judge between the potato salad's. :)
Goldie - LOL - I am SURE that Jodi would win - so i guess I will bring deviled eggs instead!!
OH - and someone needs to bring chips and dip!! :-)
Another thing about friendship - sometimes I don't think I am a very good friend - I am not good at finding all those wonderful graphic pictures for the myspace pages - SO, please know that I appreciate every one of my friends and although I don't always stop by your page - I am always thinking about you!!! :-)
Where is Tina??!! Did you get snowed in??!!
It's weird to NOT have my sunset as my pic - Will have to get used to this owl!!
AND, I LOVE Lynn D's owl!!
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YAY!!!!!! I had to do it! And there is no one here to laugh at me for being stupid!
MEK will be so proud of me!
LOL - FUNNY - you diverted me with an email!!!!!!! You crazy Girl..
Congrats - Barb!!! VERY sly!!!
I can bring baked beans which is a recipe handed down from my grandma.
**evil laughter**
Barb - You KNOW I am PROUD!! :-) See - you just can't resist!!!
Dreama - i guess Cpgem will have to bring the beano!! LOL
Oh Mr. MEK is home!! better go start dinner!!! LOL
Tinkatia, aren't you up from your nap yet? I know it's only 4 pm your time but it's almost 6pm my time. Time for dinner.Wake up! :)
I'll make macaroni and cheese instead.... on second thought.
Dreama - we need the beans, SO please bring them!! :-) can't have a potluck without them!!!
YEAH - I was 110!!! LOL
"evil laugh" just for Barb!!!
Okay - Mr. MEK wants to go to the casino for nachos!! :-) YUMMY
Well, looks like we aren't doing that........ good grief - I wish he would make up his mind..
BUT - I'm not complaining - he IS my only friend here!! :-)
Shirley: I loved your post! You have come a long way baby!
Zona: That was beautiful! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Mary/MI: So glad you blog here with us!! I always need to see Mary/MI to cheer me up!
Sandie: I am so glad you reconsidered and found us!
Now I see a few of you are admiring my legs again! You would not believe how much Nair it takes to make them look this good!
I will throw in for the potluck I'll bring the vodka and bloody mary mix! I am PMSing and this about all I can handle today. Finally figured it out when I had about 16 emotions in a minute and 1/2.
Oh and way to go BarbinWA!!! Slid right in there and distracted MEK! LMAO
MEK your owl looks sneaky!
I know - IBB can bring jello shots - she makes them REAL good!! :-)
Yes, Lynn D - she sure did distract me. clever girl!! But I love her!!!
Lynn - and my owl is in the tree just waiting to "jump in" - LOL
:-)
What should I bring?
POT LUCK UPDATE:
Oven fried chicken
Baked potatoes
Macaroni and Cheese squared!
Potato salad
Bloody Mary's (and Midol!)
Fresh Fruit Salad
Cherry Pie
Apple Pie
Deviled Eggs (thanks MEK for doing these...TINA could have brought them and we all know how she boils eggs!)
I'm getting hungry!
Hey Nightowls,
I can't wait to get home to read all the comments. Such a interesting topic! I also want to add my 17cents as well, I will do so tonite!
maureen
Thanks so much for your daily blog today, I am so glad you agreed to let me post it! I new you had it in you, and now everyone else knows too :O)
mek
I glanced at your owl, so very cute, I will read the back story tonite!
It seems we are missing tina and jodi. I hope everything is ok, as they are very important to the nightowl blog, they were the original chit chatters on Rossland
and the ones that started the ball rolling on the thought of this blog. Has anyone heard from them?
I will check back later!
:O)
Thanks LynnD and Goldie. Anyone want spaghetti and meatballs with garlic bread? I got a big pot of it here. Enjoy!
LynnD~ Awh, you really know how to make me feel good too! I'm all for your liquid refreshments!
I missed the race! I have been on the phone "listening" to my Aux. Pres.I think everyone knows some one like her, kinda chatty Kathy. She seems to know everyones business. I didn't need to know who's bladder had dropped LOL!!
Yes Mary/mi, that would be my MIL! LOL
Maureen - I will make the buns. As I have told you before I am famous for my buns.
Dreama - I slept from one til three today. That should give me lots of energy for the rest of the evening. I usually sleep an hour.
Zona - I loved your post. Am I being conceited or was I the little lady that got your blogging? You always told me that but I thought maybe I was in competition with another little old lady. LOL
Thank you, Lynn D! I'm glad I didn't let those cyber nasties chase me away either!
Dreama - The reason I was late posting is because I waited on the phone to Mastercard for an hour. I always pay on line and in January for some reason my bill didn't get paid even though I had the registration number. It was easily settled but it took an hour before I got an agent. Thank God for speaker phones. You can go about your business while you are waiting.
Tinka, I remember your famous buns! Yea, we're having Tinka's famous buuunnnnnsssss! (singing)
I LOVE buns! but only on JBJ or Johnny Depp.
ps, my hubby has nice buns too heh heh!
My husband has no buns, seriously. He has the cutest face and the cutest.......
But no buns.
iteach!! ROTFLMAO!!! but we all knew that didn't we? wink wink
Glad you are up Tinkatia. You almost missed dinner.
Dreama - I would have been heart broken if I had missed dinner. It all sounds go good. I must have been tired or lazy to sleep that long.
iteach, my husband is very handsome, too, and has also lost his buns. Unfortunately, I think I found them . . .
Hi everyone!
Lynn, I still crack up when I see your owl with the skinny legs! Too cute!
Congrats on being first today!
My best friend and I met in high school 35 years ago. We had a history class that was taught by the football coach, and most of the class consisted of the football team.
There were 5 females, so we all clustered together and would talk about our own subject when the rest of the class talked football.
We ended up being best friends, doing all the things you do, double dates, sleepovers, cutting school, then later standing up as maid of honor in each others wedding, vacations together, etc.
One time we went to Europe and rented a car, drove all over Germany, Italy and Switzerland by ourselves. I can't believe how brave we were!
We are still very close, although we live a little over an hour apart. Our lives have gone on different paths and we don't see each other very much. We email all the time but the last time we actually got together was about 3 years ago, we went to a Fleetwood Mac concert together.
She is now a staunch animal rights person, a vegan (she would probably be mortified at my new leather sofa set), divorced and very negative towards men, a gym rat (spends hours daily working out).
In a wierd quirky twist of fate, she lives with her ex-husband as roomies, the get along much better this way.
I am pretty opposite, just got remarried, don't eat meat but do love fish and seafood, don't do the gym.
Anyway, no matter how different we are now, we still giggle like we did back in highschool, and I'm almost ashamed to admit this, but last time together we prank called a couple guys we used to know.
You would never know we are middle aged now by the immature way we act together. But it's ok!
As far as other friends, I moved pretty far from everyone, I have some people here I do things with occasionally. I am more and more a homebody these days.
I do have a really good friend (guy) who I've been friends with for over 20 years. I still get together with him when I go to visit my parents.
No one could ever believe we were always "just friends", and nothing more. We are like confidants, he will tell me stuff about his sex life, women he's dating, etc. Not to gossip, just to get my opinion on things. It might be considered strange but we are just comfortable.
My husband and him have met, there is no problem with my huz being jealous or anything.
One of my dearest friends died at age 49 of breast cancer. We met in nursing school and losing her was very difficult.
I have 2 other real close friends, one in Maui and another in SLC, Utah. We see each other during trips, so not too often.
I've been lucky enough to meet several blog buddies, what a blessing!
I don't think it matters where you are or if you see your friends in person all the time, sharing your time, whether actually together, on the phone, or on the computer is what keeps the relationship going.
Sorry this is realllllly long...
Dinner was so good...spaghetti and beans and chicken, deviled eggs, and oh so much more. And to think we had sundaes first too. I'm stuffed.
Going to brag here, but my husbands buns are just as tight as they were when he was 23. God I am a lucky women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Goldie, brag away! My hubby loves it when I pinch his hiney lol!
ARG! I ate too much! Which one of you held me down and force fed me all the good food?
You ladies are so lucky, I have nothing to pinch on the backside of my hubby.
Eastbay~ I forgot to mention earlier that one of my very best friends is also male. Hubby & I even took him to Vegas with us once. He takes me to concerts and shows that hubby doesn't want to attend. I'm even thinking of asking him to go to Paris with my niece and I this summer. I didn't know he was gay for the first 5 yrs I knew him. He was afraid I would hold it against him. We have now been friends for over 17 yrs.
For REAL - I AM stuffed - we ended up at the casino - the snack bar line was out of this world, so we went over to the buffet - I didn't eat as much as I could have - but I did my fair share!! :-)
Just waiting for Idol - and I PROMISE - NO SPOILERS!!!!!!!!!
Jodi - you might want to tape LA Ink tonight - comes on TLC - it's pretty interesting, see people get their tats and the stories behind them!!!
MEK~ Guess what came in the mail today?
The first disc for the first season of Ghost Whispers. I am going to watch the very first episode tonight.
ITEACH! I will trade mr iteaches "front" for my hubbies hiney. You can do a lot more with a "young front",than with a tight butt!Good lord where is Whabbear?... SSSHH
I think I ate too much.
MEK~ I'm watching idol right.....no spoiler here!
Iteach - you will LOVE the show - Mr. MEK got me hooked - I did NOT want to start watching a new show - but he was right!! While you watch - you have to count HOW many low cut tops or pj's that Melinda wears !! :-)
MEK! I keep forgetting to ask you. What is the date that you will be working the golf tour.
Mary in Mich - Practice rounds are Mon, Feb. 18th and Tues. Feb. 19th
First round of the tournament is Wed. Feb, 20 - thru to last day on Sunday - SO, I will be at the golf course from sun up to sun down for seven days - :-)
Idol is coming on - any good auditions I should know about!! LOL
Oh Mary -
I can have my camera on practice days - any golfer you would LOVE to have a pic off??!!
mary/mi and MEK, are you both big golfers? I live 20 minutes from the Augusta National!! Have you ever been?
MEK, Woods is my fav. Do they ever pose in a group?
Oh, my lips are sealed on idol LOL!!
there is this one yahoo....never mind
Good evening "Owlettes"!!
The nest is so full today... Hello to all.... too very many too mention everyone... so wont single out any one...
I have loved reading the blog today... This is (I say it again) the most amazing group of people... I am HONORED... to be included!!! Thanks !!
and NO SPOILERS... but Idol was good tonight... not too much madness!!!
Hubby and I getting ready to watch " Hogan's Heroes"... we got the complete first and second season for Christmas...
iteach - I hope you enjoy 'season one' of Ghost Whisperer the way I did. I loved the first three episodes the best. I think because it was all so new to me. I watch one episode a night. I hope to get Season two for my birthday in April.
Sorry I missed dinner... but I will bring Jello shots if anyone wants them...
I make peach jello with peach schnapps and vodka..( Tastes like you are biting into a big ole fat fuzzy peach!!!!)
and Berry blue jello with blueberry schnapps and vodka...
Sandie~MEK is our window to the golf world. I'm just a so-so golf fan.Tiger got me watching more golf. I also like Sinj. I'm mostly into Pro football and college basketball
Tinka in 30 more minutes I am going to watch the first show, I am so excited.
There is only one other show I watch and that is "Lost". I love it, love it, love it!
iteach - Let me know what you think. It was Zona and Bear that got me onto this show. The only other show I watch is "House" but it hasn't been on much this season. Enjoy.
TINKA: Of course that 'sweet lady' was you!! I remember you held my hand through the whole thing. ;)
ITEACH: 'LOST' is one of my favorites too. I thought I had missed the new season opener last week, my sister is younger and is suppose to remind me of these things. VIG assured me it started this week. Whew!
Idol is over - NO SPOILER FROM ME - but I just want to say...
SHOUT, KICK YOUR HEELS UP and SHOUT - PUT YOUR HANDS UP!!! LOL..
need to catch up...
IBB - I'll take a peach jello shot
Mary - that would be NO - those top golfers don't pose for anything - you have to snap them as they are walking, putting, hitting - we are NOT allowed to talk to the players while we are working!! AND, Tiger is my fav also - last year - I was SOOOO excited to see him in person - I was like a school girl and her first crush - TOO FUNNY!!!
Sandie - no, I have never been to Augusta - when we win the lottery - LOL - my dream to to travel all over to the different golf tournaments AND play the courses that they are at!! :-)
Iteach and other Lost fans - I loved that show the first season but when the "others" arrived - I just could NOT get into it.... so I didn't watch last year at all.
Whabby and I always LOVE to trade thoughts on Ghost Whisper!!
Zona - did you hear that "high roller" hookers are flooding into Glendale?? I was shocked!! But - I guess they go where the money is!!
I'll be back after Biggest Loser is over!!!
MEK: I heard they are over-running the stadium. Not too surprising. HELP! We have a hooker infestation! LOL
Now I know my favorite golfer may not tour anymore--but MEK, if you ever see Nick Faldo..could you see if he could spare a ball or two? A picture would be great also..
Goodnight everyone. Don't stay up too late!
They JUST interupted Biggest Loser with election results - GEEZ....
Night Shirley!
MEK- I'd like to see pictures of all the golfers and especially of you grabbing Nick Faldo's balls....
jello shots?? I'm in.
nite Shirley
Mary - LOL - don't see myself doing that!! :-)
Goldie - certainly do NOT see myself grabbing his balls!! LOL... I used to have ALL the players pics on myspace, but I deleted them cuz my pic stuff was full - since "Tom" has changed the rules - I'll try to upload last years pics again.. Tiger and Phil are still up - Mr. MEK was Phil's walking scorer in the first round.
IBB - did you drop off those shots or did you "see nawthink" (she is watching Hogan's Heroes) that was my best Schultz imitation..
Well it was Zona's idea, I just wanted to see it...... don't know if Nick would appreciate it either.
I remember all the pics from last years MEK- I am so jealous of you- but I loved looking at them. I hope you have a great time this year. And tell Daly to go to hell if he gives any shit.
Zona - I thought it was Mary - sorry - if I do see Nick - I'll try to get a pic!! :-)
Goldie - I don't believe that Daly is in the top 64 - but trust me, i won't take any shit from him!! I didn't before and I won't start now!! :-)
Is anyone else on myspace and do you have those awful spiders running around at the top of your page?? EWWWW! I know it sounds stupid but it's really giving me the creeps.
Hello everyone. I'm just home for a short while but I wanted to tell you that I got an email from Donna Jean. Unfortunately, Laurie's heart issues are more extensive than they thought. She will definitely be having surgery in the next couple of months. Donna really appreciates everyones prayers and well wishes. She is very stressed and worried right now so please keep her in your thoughts. She will try to stop by here tomorrow to explain everything in more detail.
I remember the story MEK and I haven't thought the same of him since. To think I used to like him...
And no doubt he is not in the top 64!
Ok, I am of to huddle under the covers. The wind is howling big time and its colder then a witch's tit. Got tired of waiting for those jello shots. Tell ibebold to save me a few for tomorrow!
Night Owls!!
MEK~I am confused. Can't see yourself doing what? I'm assuming you're talking about Goldies balls comment eh? Just how many jello shots have you done?
IBB~ Cut her off LOL!!
Thank you just_lin. My prayers are certainly with Laurie and Donna Jean. I am so sorry to hear that they have to go thru that.
Mary - lol - for some reason - I thought you were the one that asked about Nick - it was Zona - SO, yes, cut me off - I have had WAY too many shots!!!!!!
Goldie - good nite - I think IBB DID drop those off and I had them ALL!!!!!!!!!! LOL :-)
Is it really WRONG to have just eaten two fun size butterfinger candy bars while watching the Biggest Loser??? crap!!
Is anyone watching Janice Dickinson on Oxygen?.I was channel surfing (honest) and saw some serious toushes!!
Just Lin - thank you for letting us know - continued thoughts and prayers to Donna Jean and Laurie.
Goldie: I have to agree with you, when you said that
I always feel like my friends are in categories".
Me, too, like big time. Ordering my groups of friends by the length of time I've known the people involved, I have Rossland/Owl's nest friends, Palm Springs friends, Lone Star (bear) friends, tennis friends, a group of (mostly gay) San Franciscans that Huz was hanging with long before I met him, another group of Bay Area people, mostly married straight couples, that I met through Huz and his sister and brother in law, work friends, friends from my former life in Ontario and, last but not least, family friends.
OMG... as I think about it, it's amazing how little overlap there is between these groups (there's some, just not a lot). And since I've known each for different amounts of time, and interact with them in consistently different settings and circumstances, the rules of engagement are different.
MEK and AM got kind of a taste of all this when they were here for the BABB weekend. Friday night, the three of us hung out with some of the "straight couple" group at a restaurant. Going out to restaurants is something I rarely do with any group except them. Saturday was devoted to the Bloggers BBQ, with all the quirky only-in-Rossland activitites that go with you all, the fabulous cyber-friends group. Then, Sunday evening was spent with the Lone Star bear friends, partying in the back patio of a gay bar.
Hmmmm... 'weenie, I've never really stopped to analyze my social life in this way before. Truth is, I enjoy the people in all these groups.
Thanks for stimulating these thoughts!
Hiya Owls!!!!
EastBay--LOL @ crank call
Mek-- &heart; your owl.
Lovin everyone's owls.
MaryinMich--I sent u mail..did u ask Rosie a ? about Janette & Helena?
oh wow Jello shooters for breaky, I'm In!!
Mary - I just checked - it doesn't come on until 11:30pm here - I'll be watching LA Ink then - even though I should be in bed...
I just found a TERRIBLE scrapbooking thing - these people have NO personality and are terrible at trying to demonstrate!!
I so loved the first episode, MEK and Tinka. It made me cry like a baby.
Whabby - RE: Friday nite - I almost had them talked into going to the Lonestar! didn't I???!! :-)
My Owl friends - I jumped into Whabby's car that Friday night in the hotel parking lot - he could have taken my anywhere - Lord knows - I was WAY trusting.. :-) AND, he also, cuz he'd never meet me either!! BUT - off we went!! I remember the first thing Huzbear's sister said to me - "Well, you look like a normal person"!! They really didn't know what to expect either!! Amazing all around..
I will forever be grateful to Whabby for being my "host" for the weekend.. You made a "stranger friend" feel as if they had known you FOREVER!! and you will be MY forever friend!! :-) love ya!!
Iteach - glad you enjoyed it - you get hooked...
iteach - The next two are very touching too. I am trying to spread them out. I am glad you enjoyed it as much as I did. On Friday night's there are these seasons' episodes. I will remind you if Bear or Zona forget.
Hey hey owlettes...
Hope you are enjoying the jello....
2 of my favorite sayings... "There's always room for jello"
and "Jello, A naturally fat free food!!"
but seriously...
MEK... It is nice to look at "My Inheirtence" everyday...
Quick story about that owl... When we moved to Va. in 1978... our moving van caught fire and we lost a lot of stuff... we got money to go get new furniture... mom and I were shopping....
She saw that owl painting on the wall and fell in love... It was 150.00 dollars... that was a lot of money for a painting in 1978!!!
she wouldn't do it... sooo we were in the store about 2 hours... every time we walked by I would say .."That would look so good in the living room"... I finally wore her down and she got it...
I tease mek that it should be mine.. since I talked her in to it ... Bu tit really would look better in MEK's house... ( but shhhh, don't tell her I said that )
IBB - that is TOO funny - cuz I no longer own the couch and chair that that would 'look wonderful" with!! AND, moved out of the house that had "the wall" for that painting!! :-)
Lovey~Nope wasn't me. I quit going there a long time ago. I'm not big on negative comments. I guess I have turned into a Polly Anna and A wooss.
Friends for me are very hard to keep close, I think for me its a trusting issue. All the friends I had from my growing up years I did not stay in touch with, it is strange tho because when I was growing I saw them as friends. So were they really friends or did I just think they were friends?
I do remember having a lot of heartache from them, and several turn their heads from me after a issue came up. So I guess they were people who I thought were my friends.
I am not one to make new friends, I tend to be just me. I feel fine without making new friends as they just seem to have lots of baggage and issues. I have the same and don't need others to add to the confusion of what we call life. So no I have no new friends!
Yet I have made new Cyber Friends,
and am very happy that i did!
Who would have know!
Cyber friends is what got me really me thinking. How can we really know someone in cyber world and be truly friends. I am not very outgoing
this cyber world scares me some.
Do I enjoy the cyber friends I met on NightOwls Oh yes very much. Do I look forward to hearing from a Night Owl, Oh yes very much. But do I know much about them. Not Sure, I know what they tell me, However I can't see them, or touch them, or know their insides.
Can a cyber friendship grow, yes if the people put enough into it, the answer is yes. However just by a few comments, a few posts, a few e-mails a friend is not made. I would call that a acquaintance.
Friendship to me is my Family, they are my friends. Even tho they can do the same as anyone, I trust them more.
This was a great question!
I read every comment, all of them
were so truthful, so inspiring, so real!
Friendships, are here!
Oh gosh, Laurie and Donna Jean are in my prayers. Donna Jean was one of the first people I remember from the blog because at one time I had a cousin also named Donna Jean.
Spiders on Myspace? I didn't see any Sandie.Yikes!
LOL IB & Mek.....
It is a beautiful painting.
Mek did u put it in your myspace album?
Good night everyone, have a great day tomorrow.
There are about twenty owls right now lurking waiting to jump at 200.
I know how you guys operate.
Iteach, good nite..
Lovey - no, it's not on myspace yet.
cpgem - good to see you tonight - we might have WAY more in common than we think!! LOL
Don't make me go have sex with my husband.
I am actually too tired tonight.
Oh my, I am scared and moving out of the way.
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