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Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Curious, Friendships?

Maureen, our night owl chef
is the bearer of this question
for our daily blog~~

makes you think!

Curious

by Maureen

I am curious about how people define friendships. Is it different for different types of friends? Do you have one set of rules for real life friends, cyber friends, your best friend or just people you may hang out with but not share all of your life with? Can cyber friends be real friends? Do loyalties and convictions differ between the types of friends?

What is the meaning of friendship to you?

431 comments:

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MEK in AZ said...

YES, YES, YES!!!
i still have it!!!

♥LOVEY♥ said...

WoooHoooo Mek!!!
Congrats!!

****** throwin confetti***

Now I can go to sleep lmfao

MEK in AZ said...

Lovey - thanks for hanging around for the march...

i really do need to go to bed..

Thanks for the fun tonight...

I think I have figured out who the secret blogger is!! :-)

Hope everyone has an excellent Wednesday... :-)

MEK in AZ said...

Nite Lovey!!
we better clean up the confetti - we don't want MO mad at us in the a.m.!!

♥LOVEY♥ said...

Night night Owls.

Jodi n Tina u better come out to play tomorrow.

Happy Dreams to all.
♥xox♥

♥LOVEY♥ said...

LOl ok Mek,
[]******** leaf blower works well.

Night night.. see u tomorrow :o)

Just_Lin said...

Crap!! I should have gotten home a few minutes earlier. I can't believe I've missed all the marches today. MEK, why do you win so many? Do you have a secret technique? Congratulations.

Just_Lin said...

Ibebold I just caught up on the comments and read your post about your friend. I'm so sorry for your loss. She must have been a really remarkable person. (((HUGS)))

Just_Lin said...

Okay, I'm alone. Going to bed now............

whabbear said...

TY, Lovey! I loved the friendship posts today, especially East Bay J's! Amazing how different close friends can be.

Lynn D: Excellent analysis. You are very lucky to have two.

SacBarb: I was wondering if you were going to mention your recent reunion!

Barb in WA: Friends sometime force hard decisions, don't they?

Sandie. The worst thing someone could do is exploit the good graces of those on this blog for their own ends.

BTW, do you have any tickets to the Masters this year? LOL!

Seriously, I would LOVE to attend that tournament some day. It is by far my favorite golf major. Have you ever been?

On the debate between tight buns and other male characteristics: I come down firmly on the side of the front! LOL!

MEK: How wonderful that one of your cats likes to sleep there! That lucky Mr MEK... it's almost like a three-way! LOL!

MaryinMI: OMG! I hereby nominate you fag hag of the year! :)

Ibebold: Hugs!

LOM: Love it when you drop in!

Tina~in_ut said...

Friendship, to me, begins and ends with honesty. There is nothing in this world that gets me upset more than a lie. I have ended friendships because of it. If I am going to take the risk of opening myself up to someone, I want the truth. Do I always get it? Heck no. Do I know it? Oh yeah~ Do I accept it? Sometimes….depends on the lie and the person~

My best friend in the entire world is my husband. He is the kindest man and puts up with so much. (for starters…ME) We enjoy doing many of the same things (except scrapbooking), laugh at the same things, and we value the same things in life.

My best friend is a lot like my husband. We enjoy most of the same things (including scrapbooking), but our religious beliefs are like night and day. So we agree to disagree.

I am also very close to my sister and cousins. My sis and I have the same sense of humor. We are both very sarcastic. (I know that is a shocker) My cousins and I have the same silly sense of humor….when we are in that kind of a mood. I share a lot with them, but not everything. I guess I can say that about everyone. I really don’t think there is any one person that knows “everything” about me. Hubby knows most, but not all.

Then there are my blog buddies~ The craziest bunch of all. You know you have a “true” friend when you can say, “Hey Jew!” and the response you know you will get is, “What the heck do you want, Mexican?” Others may not understand, but the two of you do~ :) Or you go to the airport to meet a BB and forget that you’ve never met her before. There is just this connection and you feel as if you’ve known her forever~ :) Then there is the old lady (both terms are used loosely here) who makes me laugh every freaking day. Some days I just want to shoot her (and I tell her) and others I just want to kiss her (and I tell her)! I can’t tell how many times I wanted to get on a plane to do both! :D I think one of my favorite things to say to one friend is, “Shut the fuck up and get over it!” and her response is, “okay, but…….” She just makes me laugh so hard and I don’t think she really knows it. (and btw…..she’s proofing this…so if you don’t like it…blame her...oh...and I didn't send her this part) :)~ There is another that I talk on the phone with that has become more and more special each and every day. And I can always count on a b’slap from her to make my day~ And still another who for some insane reason gets upset if I don’t add to her name each and every time I post. And she wears the silliest blue and orange clothes~ I am also getting to know some new people from the owl blog that make me laugh when I need it, and one even shares her husband…..THAT is a true friend~

Every one of us is sensitive and every one of us has feelings. Sometimes we hurt each other’s feelings, whether we realize it or not. I like that we apologize, and sometimes it saddens me when we don’t respond to the apology. I guess that is up to each individual person. I’m just as guilty as the next person, but I really do try to put myself in the other person’s shoes……whether the damn things fit or not!!! You ladies would absofuckinglutley die if you knew what my New Year’s Resolution is. I’ve kept it. I’m proud of that, but it really is pretty sad that I had to make it (on my part!) in the first place. And NO, I’m not telling you what it is!!!

So...on that note...Mo~ I thank you for this thought provoking topic...and I want to smack you for this thought provoking topic~ And best of all, I know you know what I mean~

iteach said...

Wow, Tina, thanks for your post. It was long and I had to read it six times to understand ( not your fault, I'm just a little slow, remember I work with seven year olds all day) and I could tell you put a lot time into it.

Now I feel bad, I think I answered Mo's question with like maybe seven words.

Thanks for your honesty and compassion. :) I felt it all.

Now take the damn crocs off and have a good day. You have made me seven minutes late for the rain room. :)

Hymenoptera said...

Life's greatest and rarest treasure is a real, true friend.
Those are the people who will cover your back no matter what.
Those are the people who will help you move.
They are the people who are beside you on your death bed and vice versa.
They are the people who make life worth living.

night.owls.sb said...

Hy

You made it in, Welcome!

I am glad you here, stop my more often.

its me "cpgem8"

New blog will be posted in about a minute, it is from a nightowl

tina
I understand, we are all different.

I agree I do not like lies either, lies make me cringe!

Thanks for sharing!

night.owls.sb said...

New Blog up!

Have a great Day!

:O)

night.owls.sb said...

amicus
I have been meaning to ask you, and it just always slips my mind.

Did you ever get your new computer hooked up?

mo
Thinking about you today, hope you have a good day!

birdee or chickenowl
Where the heck are you, Did you roast chickenowl?

bon
Have not seen a post from you, Are you OK?

Birdee said...

Good Morning EVERYONE!!
Sorry I could not join you last night..comp. problems.

Well, I've read most of the posts regarding the topic of Friends.

Not sure what else I can add, you all have the same thoughts as I do regarding Friendships.

One of my best friends, has been with me my whole life. We started off in our mothers womb together. Our mothers were friends, lived across the street from each other, were pregnant with us at the same time. We were constantly at each other's home. They had six kids, so did my mom. Four girls, two boys, so did my mom! After years of being so close, they moved away, to another city, and so did we. We do let some time pass without talking, but when we do talk or see each other, it's like no time has passed at all. She tells it like it is, and I admire her for that.
My other best friend is from high school. Same thing, she lives 2 hrs away. But, with kids and hubbies, we can't get together as often as we would like to.
I love Both of them. They are strong , upbeat women. what I love about them, rubs off on me when we are together. I need that.
But, at the same time, when I'm in need, they stick by me, they help me. They Do NOT run away! And they Know I am the same kind of friend to them. We don't have to be in constant contact to KNOW we are there for each other, in good times and bad.

Then there are the friends that I have "met" on line these past six months. I find it amazing how I have connected with you all. You make me laugh and cry. When you are hurt, so am I. When you are happy, so am I.
Some I know better than other's. The new friends here, I look forward to getting to know all of you better. I see how you are here for your friends, the ones that you know better than me. I love how you (we) all tease each other. But when one of us is hurt, we rally around and do what we can, from a distance, to help. Just like my two best friends and I do.
I Love It!!!
Other friends, the ones that Only called me when THEY wanted something, the ones that couldn't be bothered when I needed something...I've learned to let them go. It is sad that I had to do that. But like some of you have said..Friendships don't work if they are "one sided". Can't really call it a friendship. Not sure what you would call it.
I think Lovey said it.."it's give and take". To be Honest, Caring, Trustworthy..stand "with" me, in good times and bad..And I'll do the same for you! The worst thing you could do to me, is betray me. That would break my heart. If it were done by accident, I could forgive you, If you did it deliberately, to cause me pain, I would try my best to forgive you. Because we all make mistakes, I know I have. And I would want to be forgiven. But, I would also realize, that I would have to earn your trust again, as you would have to earn mine again. In fact, I have done this, to another friend I knew from school. She hurt me deeply, but when I saw her again, i just went up and hugged her. Like nothing had happened. But I realized in days after that hug, that hers was fake. I think she really can't get past her own feelings about what she did to me. So, it's really her loss, not mine. If I ever see her again, I'd like to think that I would do the same thing, hug her. Because I think she needs it. She's more into how she looks and what she has. She has yet to realize what having good friends mean and how to be a good friend. I kind of feel sad for her. She's missing so much. But, in the end it's her choice. My choice is to be the best friend I can possibly be. Because, hopefully I can get so much in return!!!
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Anyways!!!!! Just MHO on the topic..sorry for my rambling being so long!!!! Hope it makes sense.
xoxoxoxox

night.owls.sb said...

iteach

lol, you answered mo's question in seven words. That actually is ok, as Tinas posts states, we are all different!

:O)

Birdee said...

Carol, are you sorry asked where I was now?!!!! LOL

Look at the long A@@ post!!!!!

haaaaaaaaaaaaa!

night.owls.sb said...

birdee
you never ramble, you "chirp"

great post!

Birdee said...

Carol, are you off work today?

We got that winter storm all you other peeps were talking about!
cold as H... here

Birdee said...

Pups don't even want to go out to potty!!

night.owls.sb said...

hy

I just reread your post about 3 times. It is great. I am going to print it.

I have received beautiful cards from a nightowl, I have a three tier frame, I am going to put your post and two of those cards in the three tier frame.

Thanks again for stopping by!

It is good to see you again!

night.owls.sb said...

birdee

No, I am here, just playing.

You do know I posted a new blog?

Birdee said...

Are you kidding me???!!!

That post was not THAT good!!!!

But, if ya want to print it...go for it!!!!

love ya♥

night.owls.sb said...

birdee

Sorry, should have said,

I am at work, I am here could be anywhere. Duh!!!

Birdee said...

Nope...but will go to it now!!!
LOL

night.owls.sb said...

birdee
I loved your post, however I am not printing yours :O)

See hymenoptera post @ 9:21am..

It is such a pretty saying!

Birdee said...

Okey dokey.....I see it....

That is a good one!!!

guess I need more sleep....not "with it" this morning!!! LOL

Hymenoptera said...

Whab I don't have overlaps either, but most of my friends are men.

Tina~in_ut said...

ha!~

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