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Monday, April 7, 2008

Diet....Do You Try It?


Diet...Do You Try It?

by Vig


I was put on my first diet when I was twelve years old. At that time I remember being just fine with the way I was and when I see pictures now, I think I was kind of cute and looked fairly typical for that age. My mom, however, felt I needed to lose twenty pounds and said she would give me twenty dollars if I did. I was totally motivated by money; twenty dollars in 1971 was a lot of money. I lost the twenty pounds, won the twenty dollars and also won a body image that forever after felt imperfect.

I have spent a good deal of my adult life trying to change my body and to correct what I have had difficulty seeing as being fine just the way it is. Diet after diet has failed and has always led to gaining back the weight plus just a little more for good measure. After doing Weight Watchers, Diet Centre, Adkins. Scarsdale, the cabbage soup diet, Eat to Live, master cleanses, and listening to Richard Simmons, Susan Powter, Oprah, Suzanne Somers and all of their fitness gurus, I have come to the conclusion that I actually know what I need to do for myself, as most people do.

As a vegetarian, I have spent a lot of time researching what I should be eating to be healthy and I have a good idea of what my body needs. And I know for sure I have to do what Rosie has always said: move more, eat less. Just as importantly, I should be looking at the reasons that I eat and how that is informed by how I feel about my body and by what I have experienced. Examine what, when and why I eat what I eat. The triggers! And it has been interesting when I have done that and have examined the major events in my life and the loss that I have suffered (whether it be through death or failed relationships), there is always a considerable weight gain very soon after.

Consumption of comfort food allows for stuffing the feelings way, way down. And I think that women have been taught that this is an acceptable way to deal with things but then are chastised when their bodies change and they don’t fit the ideal of the perfect woman.

Male Owlettes, I think I am probably wrong in assuming that it might just be women who get caught in that trap. And all Owlettes (if it is not too personal) how do you deal with food? Is food just food for you or is it tied into other things or emotions? What is your experience with diets and the pressure that is put into dieting and looking a particular way?

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goldie said...

Carol-my phone was working fine too- thats why I thought it was my computer for so long, but it turned out to be the lines the dsl was coming in on. They seperated them and gave the dsl its own dedicated line and hardwired the filters.
Whatever it is - I know how frustrating it is! Good luck getting it fixed.

Good night lovely owlettes (you too whabby and joey). It feels good to be back in the nest. Talk to you all tomorrow :)

night.owls.sb said...

iteach
Cograts! You did it...

Fun...

Goldie
I will ask Verizon, At this point I can't rule anything out.

iteach said...

Good night Goldie!

Just_Lin said...

Goldie Sweet dreams!

iteach Good job on the march to 200! Congrats!

iteach said...

J/L what are you doing tonight?

Just_Lin said...

iteach Hi! DWTS just started so I'm watching that. Just finished with clearing dinner dishes. Emailing Custard, back and forth, periodically. Otherwise, nothing really.

Jennifer said...

Good evening everyone! Sorry for the late post, but I procrastinated writing my paper last night so I had to do it tonight (but I still met my midnight deadline)! WHEW!

IBB: Congrats on being #1 and #2!!!

Mary: Great news about your brother!!! Miracles DO happen!

K'girl: I agree with everyone else! You go and say your goodbyes to someone who means a lot to you (regardless of how they may be "playing" you)! My best friend has been in similar situations with her ex-husband. His family doesn't really talk to him, but stays in contact with her! It's a bit different as they have a child and his parents are still her son's grand parents. However, I think it's funny that they come and stay with her (and not their son in the next town over)!

I know it must be hard on you just the same. Like you said, you want to put distance from them as you have many memories (as it sounds like). They must see you as "stability" and "strength" (something that perhaps your ex did not have?). I know that no matter the decision you make, you must endure some kind of pain. So HUGS to you!!! Just follow your heart and you can't go wrong!

iteach said...

Good Job on getting your paper done!

Jennifer said...

VIG: GREAT Blog!

As with everyone else, weight is an issue with me. Actually I was a chubby child, but when I hit puberty, I slimmed down and stayed that way until a couple of years before I had my daughter. I did gain a lot of weight when I had my daughter (and never lost it). Shortly after, I did go on Paxil (for a severe anxiety disorder that I have). I tried every other route (and did NOT want medication). However, it turns out to be a chemical imbalance (as only "chemicals" make me feel "normal" again)!

I blame Paxil for not being able to lose weight! No matter what I do and how I exercise and eat, it just won't come off! I am at my all time highest weight! Being depressed doesn't help either! I don't think I emotionally eat so much as I don't MOVE at ALL! I would rather lie down on the couch and sleep! (I spend a LOT of my time when I don't have Katie, doing just that...sleeping)!

I lack the motivation. I am so stressed and tired all the time. However, I KNOW if I exercise I'll feel better...but I just am so TIRED to get going! (It's a nasty vicious circle)!

VIG: I was a vegetarian for many years and I was disappointed that I was still gaining weight. It came to the point where I had to eat better (and had no time to cook). I gradually started eating meat again. It was so much work to be a vegetarian. (I am so addicted to white carbs too...which didn't help)!

iteach: I would be THRILLED if I could loose 100 pounds! You GO girl!!!

I also have lower back problems (even when I was skinny). I have a bone in my lower back that fused together with one of the lumbar bones and is called a "bat-wing" (because that's what it looks like)! ANYway...I have arthritis where the bones are fused together! I also have a heel spur (that I KNOW would be better if I lost weight)! Again...it's the crazy cycle of lack of motivation, etc. that I just can't move!

HELP!!! 8 O

Jennifer said...

Sorry...I really have to work on making my comments shorter! (I guess I type fast and I am typing like I talk....)! Sorry!

Jennifer said...

I think I am off to bed. I have had a pounding headache since 1:30 PM today!

I hope I can have some nice dreams tonight...

Jennifer said...

Maybe I can dream of finding that "prince charming" who likes me no matter what my size is and can find other qualities I have to offer....

I guess I need to grow up and stop believing in fairy tales....

...sigh.... : ` (

Mary/MI said...

Hello everyone, sorry I am posting so late. I had an Auxiliary meeting that lasted forever! Elections, committee reports, my Treas. report. and new/old business blah blah... Another one tomorrow.
I got home and checked my email for news from my Brother. I read it and all hell kinda broke lose! My brother wrote that his cancer was confined..to his PROSTRATE HEH? I called my little sister who is a nurse and asked her if I read it wrong. She said she was confused too. She made a few calls and found out that my older sister misspoke herself to us (she's from Ohio). She meant to say prostrate! Well prostrate cancer is still not a good thing, but it isn't as bad as pancreatic cancer. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry! I apologize to everyone for the scare. Your prayers were not wasted. His cancer is only in his prostrate and he will be having that removed. I will be copying and pasting this same message on myspace and will be right back.

Just_Lin said...

Mary Yes, prostate cancer is different from pancreatic cancer. But regardless, I'm so glad it is confined and will be able to be dealt with successfully.

whabbear said...

OMG, Mary! Heaving a huge sigh of (relative) relief!

iteach said...

Thank you for sharing that with us Mary!

My dad had prostate cancer at the age of 50. He had that darn thing removed and he has been doing well ever since. He will be 63 next week.

Bon'O said...

Apologies to VIG for a very late acknowledgement of a great blog! It's been a busy day. Somewhere in my youth I settled on 119 pounds as my 'perfect' weight. However, as a 5'9"+ Amazon, I think I saw that number last somewhere around 7th grade! Body image has always been an issue for me, but I think that's true of every woman to some extent. I've learned not to focus on the numbers, but on being healthy. That is not to say that I follow through. Definitely not! My love of white carbs and dairy and my abhorrence of physical exertion do me in every time.

Jodi~~Sorry I missed your call today as well. I'm sure you're catching some Zzzz's now, so...another day?

Mary~~Healing thoughts continue for brother Joel. Such good news today!

Turtle~~As others have said, I encourage you to follow your heart. I echo Lynn's words about ignoring anyone else's agenda. Even a "that was awkward and painful" will trump an "If only I had..." every time.

Carol~~ A hundred reasons to love this place? Piece o' cake!

Mary/MI said...

Thanks JustL & Whabbear.

Here is my weight thing out look. When I was younger I was BLABSH (built like a brick sh-- house). I didn't star gaining weight until after my 2nd child. I am 5' nothing so any extra weight is noticeable on me.II went to a Dr who gave me B12 shots and pills (in the 60s). I dropped weight and was so energised it scared me. For some reason I was also super horney! I showed th pills to some gals where I worked. They said "Honey I will give you $5 for one of them! She called them "black beauties. I was taking amphetamines! I went home and through them away. Scared the crap out of me! I stayed pretty slim until I messed up my knee a few years ago. Hopefully I can get my weight down again. I did watch the new show " I can make You Thin". Believe it or not it has helped me. I no longer crave sweets and am eating less. Sorry for the long post. I have been away too long LOL! (seems good to laugh again)

Mary/MI said...

Hi Bono & Jennifer, thanks to you too.

Mary/MI said...

Iteach I just noticed you! How wonderful for your father. It is good to hear success stories.

whabbear said...

Mary: LOL! Sounds like "Levitra and Black Beauties" parties should become the new "in" thing for swinging seniors!

MEK in AZ said...

I would like to wish

Barbara in WA

as VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

I hope that all of your wishes and dreams come true!!!

love ya....

whabbear said...

Me, too, Barb! Happy Birthday!!!

kahonugrl said...

anyone around?

Zona said...

225!!! Happy Birthday BARB!

Zona said...

OK KGRL--You got 225..so it'll have to be 226 for BARB! It's the thought that counts, right?? :)

Tina~in_ut said...

VIG~ wonderful blog as always~ I used to be so skinny that my dad and brothers would call me a name I would rather not say on the blog~ I gained weight after my first child, but lost it when we bought our house (the stress). When I got pregnant with the twins....I went into labor early and spent a lot of time in the hospital trying to just keep them in.....well I was successful, but they also told me I wasn't eating enough! So EVERY DAY, I ate eggs, toast, fruit, bacon, juices, milk and cereal for breakfast. For lunch, I ate a sandwich, chips, veggies, juices, milk, fruit, and dessert. Dinner was mostly lasagna, veggies, fruit, juices, milk, rolls, and dessert! The nutritionist came to see me one day to tell me I still wasn't eating enough...so I HAD to have ice cream between meals and fruit! Each meal was followed by a Malox chaser and I had to lean back so nothing came back up! Well...after those kids were born....you couldn't feed me enough! I KEPT EATING!!!! I have never seen 121 lbs again in my life and I probably never will~ One of my hubby's uncles told me I never looked better~ God bless his soul! I could stand to lose about 25lbs....but what the heck! I'm happy~ Did I tell you I'm allergic to exercise?!!!

IBB~ Congrats on first~

iteach~ yay for you on the 100! and thank you for the lovely cards and owl~ Those kids of yours are sure precious~ :D

Carol~ all the airlines are charging~ well...except one...but they probably will soon~ The business fliers don't usually bring two bags.....and a lot of them don't even check a bag! The charge is for leisure fliers. I wish the cost of fuel was added to the fare, but I guess this would at least give people an option to not pay the extra money!

Mary/Mi~ I'm so glad to hear your good news! I'll continue to pray for your brother~....update....just read your last post....I still think it's better news than what you were originally told! :)

AmicussHo~ :)~ Thanks....I will tell Mr Squiggles~ :D And about your new idea to weigh people too....I'll bring that up at work tomorrow! :D AND when I get a call from Continental....and Alaska Air....and Northwest... :)~

Hodi~ so glad you didn't get lost in Wesconsin~ :)~

VIG~ btw....you do realize....once it's sent to Carol....that it! Zona tells me she is going to back out...and I email Carol to post it anyway! :)~ BECAUSE IT'S GOOD!!!! :D

Kgrl~ I'll say it again...just like everyone else....go see her if you want to see her! :) AND....I watched the show last night....it was brilliant~

Tina~in_ut said...

Hi Zona and kaHOnugirl~

Tina~in_ut said...

Okay...this is going to sound freaking weird~!!! BUT.....a priest that I just love dearly died on Saturday night. Fr. Kaiser was the dearest man! He was a true servant priest. Well...I have never in my life been happier that someone is in Heaven than when I found out he died. He is with his "Pa" and "Ma" and his guardian angel, Pete! (he always told us we each had a guardian angel and we should name them!) I am so happy for him!

Zona said...

TINA: My Guardian Angel's name is Joseph. My mom's was Grace. Mom told us to name them too.

Not weird, beautiful. Just think about what he is seeing and hearing right now..

Tina~in_ut said...

Thanks Zona~ you are sweet~ :)

Just_Lin said...

Happy Birthday Barbara!

Good night owls. See you tomorrow.

Jodi said...

Good night JUST LIN!!!

Good morning ZONA & TINA!!

Jodi said...

TINA - Fr. Kaiser is right where he belongs......and I'm sure he had a hell of a "Welcome Home" party.

Zona said...

Goodnight J/LIN: Wishing creamy sweet Custard dreams to you!!

JODI: HI! Can you explain 'curds' please?? I have been wondering all day..does DIANNE need them when she sits on her tuffet??? ;)

Tina~in_ut said...

Goodnight Just_Lin~

Jodi...thank you~ :) and they probably served Chocolate Donuts! His favorite!

Zona~ you are so freaking hilarious....tuffet!!!!!

Jodi said...

ZONA - Curds.....as in cheese curds!!! Just a little thank you to DIANNE for coming to the dark side after the Broncos didn't make it to the playoffs!!!

Jodi said...

ZONA - LOL @ tuffet!!! You're quick tonight!!

kahonugrl said...

a follow up...

I knew when I wrote earlier that I would be going to see my "Auntie" this evening. I had already made my mind up thru my heart.

The visit itself was good, tho awkward. Throughout my life I have lost alot of loved ones, but only once did I have the chance to say goodbye. All of the people who have died we're either sudden deaths or accidents, including my father who had been diagnosed with cancer, fought a great battle only to lose him to an anuryism.

When I arrived at the hospital a calmness came over me. I am the type that moves through an event with strength but given any time to think about disects it. As I walked the hallways I struggled in my mind as to what I would say once I arrived in the room. When I got there Auntie was laying in the bed and her sister was there with her. She and her sister had obviously been crying together and I asked if she would like me to come back another time. She said no. Her sister welcomed me and I moved closer to Auntie and reached down to give her a hug and kiss hello. She grabbed me and held on tight. Her sister then excused herslf to get something to drink.

She wanted me to take a seat across the room and I asked if it was ok if I just stood near the bed as I sit all day at work. We talked, she explained what was going on, the diagnosis and her feelings about it. I just sat and listened. Then she scolded me for not keeping in touch...lol...in true Auntie fashion.

I asked her if there was anything I could get her, anything that she needed done that could take the burden off of her kids (her husband is in congestive heart failure and needs constant care). She said that right now everything was being taken care of. Her other sister who was not at the hospital is taking it quite hard as they are best friends as well.

It was an overwhelming visit. I left shortly after that as she said her room felt like it had a revolving door on it today. And since only finding out yesterday the extent of the cancer and the short time she has to live I thought it was best to go and leave her with family as I knew others would be arriving soon.

I spoke with her sister that was there and offered to her as well any help should she need it as they all live on this island but not close to Honolulu itself.

Thanks to all that responded to my earlier post. I appreciate the kind words and support.

Much aloha

Tina~in_ut said...

oh Kgrl~ I'm so glad you went~ You sound so peaceful~ You have so much inner strength. many many many hugs to you~

Jodi said...

Good morning TURTLE!! So glad that you went to see Auntie - and I'm sure that you'll never regret it!! I'm glad you went with your heart. :D

Zona said...

KGRL: I am so sorry. I'm glad you went to see her, that you had the chance to say good-bye. {{HUGS}}

Tina~in_ut said...

jodi and zona~ I just noticed how hot our men look....of course...mine looks the best~ :)~

Jodi said...

TINA - You would think that!!! I like that Johnny has taken to the rough WESconsin vibe!!!

Dianne/Denver said...

Tina, is this the same priest you had over for dinner or another? I am sorry you lost a friend but I think Heaven is the place to be some day.

KGirl, I am so glad you went to vist Auntie. I think you will always feel so much better that you did what your insides told you to do....

ZONA: Why are you talking about my tuffet on the nest blog, especially on the day everyone is talking about weight!!!

Dianne/Denver said...

Well ladies (?) I think my Tin Man is a hunk!

Dianne/Denver said...

Actually....a hunk of burnin' love!

Tina~in_ut said...

Dianne~ how's that daughter of yours~ :)~

Tina~in_ut said...

250~

Dianne/Denver said...

Tina...you are going to have to go to confession again this week!

Jodi said...

DIANNE - I think your Tin Man has great heart!!! :P

Tina~in_ut said...

Dianne~ different priest....WAY different! I don't need confession...I have the blog! :)~

Jodi~ I'd like a sample of your man, please~ :)~ Thank you very much~

Zona said...

DIANNE: LOL! A tuffet is a foot rest!!! Go for the Lion..the Tin Man needs too much oil to really get movin' and the scarecrow might fall apart...course the Wizard is called "Wonderful.."

Zona said...

DIANNE: On the other hand, you know the Tin Man is hard...

Jodi said...

I better go get ready for work. I hope you all have a great Tuesday!!!

ZONA - lol @ Tin Man being hard!!! You're on a roll. :P

Zona said...

JODI: Rinse well!! Watch out for that shower head...

Dianne/Denver said...

Ok..I am going to bed. Zona, I thought you were talking about my a$$ :) First you hate my music and then you talk about tuffets!

Jodi: That was kind of mean making fun of my Tin Man without a heart!

Nighty Night all......

Dianne/Denver said...

Oh, and regarding diets. Tink, I too am a lifetime member of WW but it is different that you...I have just been going for a lifetime (and not losing the weight)

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Jennifer said...

Turtle: Thanks for sharing your story with your visit to your auntie! I am so sorry for your sadness! BIG HUGS!!!

Jodi: My ex loved cheese curds (and so does my daughter). However, I don't like how they squeak against your teeth when you chew them (but I guess that means they are fresh).
I love going to New Glaris (sp?)! Maybe we should meet there some time this summer? (Is it far from where you live?)

Well, I need to get in the shower and get my day going. : P

iteach: Sorry to hear you are dealing with more sickness in your house! Hope your boys feel better! HUGS!!! (See you soon at school)!

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