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Monday, February 8, 2010

Would you make the call?


by Just_Lin

Underneath a magnet on my refrigerator door is a scrap of paper with a phone number and the name Rachel, pronounced Ruh-shell. It's been there for well over a year, maybe even two years. I have yet to call the number but I haven't wanted to throw it away either. I was given her name and number by one of my husband's five kids. They all agree that she is amazing. From what they tell me, she is a medium and she speaks to dead people.

I call them kids but they are all adults and some are not that much younger than me, really. They are all intelligent, logical people. The youngest is a police captain and hostage negotiator in Texas and another has retired from her position as a police dispatcher. All of them sincerely believe that they communicated with their father through this woman. Each of them felt like they needed closure with their dad on a couple of issues and they were able to get it. Two of them also felt that they were able to communicate with their deceased spouses. Each one of them believes their experience was real and they are very glad that they did it.

Some of them traveled to Sacramento to meet with this person face to face and another had her session by phone. The charge is $100 and they tell me it is well worth it. They have encouraged me to contact her. They said to make sure I have tissues nearby because each of them found the experience to be extremely emotional.

I don't know why I haven't picked up the phone and called this woman. Part of it is that I don't know if I believe in it, even though I, myself, have experienced knowing things about someone who I never met and shouldn't have known anything about. The knowledge just "came to me" and I can't explain how it happened. I just know it did.

So why do I balk at calling? I think it's guilt that stops me. Guilt because I wasn't there at the hospital when he passed away. I had returned home for the night because I was sick. And although I know he never would have faulted me for that, I still feel bad about it. Or maybe I feel guilty for wanting to have a new love in my life to spend my remaining years with. My husband was a very no-nonsense, pragmatic kind of guy, being a cop and Navy man, so I know he wouldn't fault me for that, either. So why do I find the possibility of communicating with him intrigueing but scary, too? If it was you, would you do it?

58 comments:

Tina~in_ut said...

Good Morning~

Tina~in_ut said...

J/L~ I wouldn't do it....but only cuz I'm cheap~ Besides, I already talk to dead people~ :D (The trick is in the listening~)

Lynn D said...

Morning Glories!

Tina George is the most beautiful this morning!

J/L just like you this intrigues me on many levels. I have always wondered what a conversation with my Mother would be like, but at the same time would it be real to me? Would it stir up more emotion than I could handle? Would it leave me with more questions than answers?

I feel your dilemma. I think maybe I would do this but I think rather than on the phone I would like it to happen in person. Just so I could size up the medium and to make it more real in my mind.

I do believe there are people who communicate with those in the beyond or know things that others don't. Never say never because you never know.

If you do this please let me know how it goes as I am very curious.

goldie said...

Good Morning Hooters!!

congrats on being first tina~ you cheap Ho.

Hi Lynn!

I wouldn't do it. I am too much of a skeptic. I read a book once from a person who did exactly what this women does. She had written all about how easy it was to dupe people. The start with asking questions that have the hightest likelyhood to pertain to the greatest percentage of the population and so on. Basically she was exposing what a con job it is and can be. How they can manipulate you into believing things- and actually getting you to suggest what you want to hear.

That said- I do believe that some people have the ability to 'sense' and know things. I just don't believe that you can go hire someone to 'talk' to a dead person.

Well the Saints won! The broken toe was all for a good then. Phew- I would have been pissed if I broke my toe rooting for the Saints and then they blew it in the Super Bowl.

Waving a wing at everyone.

night.owls.sb said...

Congrats to New Orleans.. great game!

night.owls.sb said...

Tina..

Oh my, ur so pretty~

night.owls.sb said...

Morning to Lynn, Goldie and Tina!

night.owls.sb said...

Shirley..

Area 51,51.. Hang in there, thanks for keeping us posted.. ♥♥

night.owls.sb said...

Lynn..

Area 51..

You said.. "I think you need to get laid"

LMAO!!!!

Lynn D said...

Hi Goldie!

Carol imjs.

Tina! That was not a very nice thing to say about Deedee.

night.owls.sb said...

J/L..

As they say in my neck of the woods.. I am on the fence about it.. I would love to call but don't know if I would, I would prob do the same as you are, leave the paper on the fridge and continue to stare at it.. But geez, I gotta tell ya, I would love to know what would be the outcome.. Its a tough one...

I don't think its guilt at all, you were there for him while he was sick... I think its just the thought of communicating with him again, which is of course scary.. I would feel the same...

night.owls.sb said...

Ok.. off and running..

have a great day everyone!

:O)

Just_Lin said...

Mornin', HOoters!

TinaCongrats on #1. Good point about the listening. That's a key to relationships with living people, too. ;)

LynnD Not one of the 5 "kids" felt they have any unanswered issues. They are completely at peace with it.

Goldie Each of them swears they didn't say or do anything to give any hints or ideas to this woman and that she came up with stuff that the other siblings didn't even know about.

Carol I didn't see much of the first half of the game but it really was exciting when the Saints rallied back at the beginning of the second half.

sacBarb said...

Happy Monday Owls.

J/L, Like Goldie, I believe there are people who are more sensitive to the 'spirit' world, but I don't know about hiring someone. That said, my curiosity may just convince me to try it. This woman apparently already knows a lot about your husband's family, so that certainly gives her an edge.

I have heard there are people who do know they are going to die soon, but do not want to die in front of a loved one. I don't know how anyone would know this, but if it's true maybe your husband was just waiting for you to leave.

If you do decide to call this woman and come to Sac to see her, maybe we can hook up while you're here.

sacBarb said...

Tina, You are the prettiest today. I saw Up in the Air on Saturday and George was at his best. I think he even smiled at me! :)

Lynn, Your BFF, Meg Whitman, really wants to be our Governor. We cannot get away from her ads. She is on about every hour trying to convince us that CA should be run like a business and she is the one that can do it.

I got to watch the second half of the game yesterday and it was very exciting. Congratulations to the Saints and Goldie, I'm glad your broken toe wasn't in vain.

Carol, I have seen news stories about all the snow in the east. Is NJ affected too?

My 85 year old Uncle and his partner have been here since Friday and I am exhausted. These guys have an unlimited amount of energy, and I am trying to keep up with them. They leave on Tuesday and I see a LONG nap for me Tuesday afternoon!

Have a good day everyone. ♥

DeeDee said...

Good Morning....

J/L......it will be $100 well spent.

You are procrastinating and I think you will wish you had done it sooner......

I used to think that people with the ability to help people in this most important way were liars if they charged for their services but now I understand the need for a fee......

If the kids were pleased with what this lady was able to do for them...you mostly likely will be as well.

Getting answers....but mostly just the feeling of having reconnected is priceless....

Always follow your original gut feeling.....you know what you want to do......you must go with that.

I think it is deeply personal....but to answer your question....I would and have done it. And whether the woman made up every word (which I doubt) I don't care.....the experience made me feel that I am never alone....

goldie said...

J/L- If they truely were happy with the service they got- then good for them! I don't begrudge anyone who has been helped~~ I just pointed out that I am a skeptic. If it worked for them, and you (if you do it) I am happy about that!

Now tina ho~ what kind of customer service is that? You get to Japan and you are dead? I hope you didn't book that reservation... ijs

DeeDee said...

Goldie....I think he had the sushi.....

My question is....how did he get that close to an aircraft and climb into the wheel well unnoticed??...

He could have been letting the air out of the tires.....lol

its laughable....they have passengers practically stripped naked inside the airport and this guy walks right up to the plane and gets on.......OUTSIDE!!

DeeDee said...

and of all places....NEW YORK CITY!

goldie said...

Dee Dee- I totally agree! How did that go unnoticed??!!

I was hoping it wasn't some new type of economy flight.....:)

goldie said...

I forgot to tell you all earlier- my nephew is getting out of the hospital today, after 2 weeks. THANK YOU all for your good thoughts and prayers....I am sure they helped.
xxoo

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25!!!!!!!!!!!!! Mark that down Shirley, please!

Lani said...

SLIN - Years ago I went to a psychic, but now I wouldn't for a couple of reasons.
Knowing you and Mr Slin for years I know he loved you and understood you even with whatever faults you might have.

Hopefully my computer will cooperate for a while.

Zona said...

J/LIN: I've been going back and forth with my answer for a little while now. I'd write yes..then delete..come back and change it to no. I guess I'm unsure. I totally believe that there are people that are sensitive enough to pick up messages from those that have passed away. I guess I just wonder what information is really to be gained from doing this. To hear that the person you lost, loved you? In your heart you know they did. That they understood the things you did in the last days or weeks of their lives? Of course they did..because they love you. Those that we've lost are happy now..and all they want for us, is that we're happy too.

Everyone is different..and for some contacting a psychic really does make them feel better. If it eases the pain you feel after losing a loved one then I think it's a good thing.

Zona said...

TINA: Congrats on 1st! I don't think it's so much a trick..as an art. :)

LYNN: "Would it leave me with more questions than answers?" Exactly.

GOLDIE: When I see this stuff on TV I'm very skeptical..but I really do believe in it too. Thus the confusion.

I'm glad your nephew is doing better!

DEEDEE: LOL@ letting the air out of the tires!

SACBARB: I absolutely agree that some people choose not to die in front of loved ones..I'm convinced my mom did it.

CAROL: I'm really happy that your business is doing so well..but wish you had more time to relax.

HI LANI! I hope your computer keeps on working! :)

We had a beautiful day today..I was out pulling weeds. One of the bad things about rain in the desert is you get lots and lots of weeds..ugh..

Lynn D said...

My BFF Meg Whitman ewwwwwww Sacbarb! Beware of politicians who can afford many commercials generally means a snow job is in the works. Read that in a fortune cookie!

DeeDee said...

Hi again......

I need 8 Chinese juniper trees on my island in IP...Can anyone help me?????

Lynn D said...

PS I would seriously question the sanity of anyone who wants to take over the mess the CA is in right now.

DeeDee said...

oh I don't want to take that over....I just want some juniper trees....

Lynn D said...

Deedee I already sent out gifts today. I will send you Juniper tomorrow! Wrote it on my list.

whabbear said...

J/L: I wouldn't do it. If every human being transforms into some other form of still conscious entity when they die, why does it take a medium to communicate with them?

We would all love to communicate with "the dead", if only to establish that we, too, will survive our own deaths in some way. All dead people know that, so why do they "mete out" the precious experience that would be a communication with them indirectly, instead of just appearing to us and doing it!

It just seems to me that we all deserve such contact, and since we don't all get it, there must be strict "rules of the game" for who is allowed that contact and under what circumstances. That is a very weird notion to begin with. The idea that those rules include a role for people who just happen to charge for the service just stretches my credulity to the breaking point!

Dianne/Denver said...

J/L" this is so strange that your would write about this today.

I don't know how many of you remember but one of my very best male friends for many years (Darrell) passed away from cancer in August. I miss him and think of him every day. We had been friends for over 35 years. Well, I emailed another friend of is from the Navy that I talk to once in awhile to see how the family and also him were all doing. He wrote me that he went to what he called a "channel" for a talk and talk to his mother and Darrell. It was so interesting to me and I'm not kidding...this was like thre days ago. It intrigued me and made me think what it would be like to do that sometime. He said he was able to get some comfort talking to him and some questions talked about and that he was now comforted until they meet again.

J/L, now you are making me want to do this all the more. I don't think Darrell would have approved of this as he felt things like this were devil related...just his thoughts as he talked about some of those kind of things.

How cute is Drew Brees and and his son on TV? It is so fun to see how excited the city of New Orleans is right now. It's nice to see happy things going on watching the news for a change and there was no violence in the celebration. Yea for New Orleans and football fans. I also read that the game yesterday was the most watched TV show EVER. It even beat out Mash, etc. See....I told you all that football was exciting...stick with me and I won't guide you wrong

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

HAPPY 7th ANNIVERSARY MR. & MRS. DIANNE!!!

I bet their branch will be swinging tonight!! He!He!He!

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

Just Lin I don't think this is something that I would do, but the fact that you still have the name and number tells me that you will do it when you are ready.

Congrats on 1st Tina!

Hi Lynn D, Goldie, Carol, Just Lin, SacBarb, DeeDee, Lani, Zona, Whabbear and Dianne!

Good night! See you tomorrow!

Bebbilane said...

Tina: Congrats on first.

J/L: I would do it. If I had the extra money to do it. Because, if you have had that number for a couple of years..it is meant that you should call it. Maybe he is waiting to tell you something..maybe you are waiting until you are ready to hear it. Either way, when it is right, you will know and you will call.

I strongly believe that there is a connection with others who have passed on. I am sure of it.

Mary/MI said...

JL, I too am a fence sitter on this.I personally would throw the number away. I would think if at
all possible,a departed family or friend would find a way to contact us directly.
What intrigues me are the mediums that work with police in finding bodies or criminals.

Tomorrow we are supposed to get a nasty blizzard! They are predicting winds of 50mpr & possibly a foot of snow, with drifts 3 times that. Not as bad as Washington DC, but still annoying!
20days until I land in Florida!

Bebbilane said...

Mary, Hi! Sorry to hear that there is going to be a lot of snow. :(

night.owls.sb said...

Hmmm.. some might have a point here, if the note is still on her frige, than perhaps that does mean something..

night.owls.sb said...

Hi Bebbi..

Looks like your enjoying Fla.. and I think Fla is enjoying you.. you are one sexy mama on the beach!

:O)

night.owls.sb said...

Mary..

We are suppose to get snow tomorrow nite into Wed, they are saying Blizzard conditions.. When I see it I will believe it.

night.owls.sb said...

Shirley..

"Their Branch" LOL..

and sleep well..

Dianne..

Happy Anniversary!

Zona..

Thank you

night.owls.sb said...

Dianne..

I know so very cute, that baby was just darlin, the headphones seemed bigger than him.. I am happy for New Orleans, it is good to see a team win that never has before...

night.owls.sb said...

Goldie..

Glad your nephew is doing better, that is certainly good news..

night.owls.sb said...

Whabby..

Your comment is very well taken. How can we communicate with the dead, if the dead are no longer themselves.

I see a blog in your future.. and flowers mommy told be so.. she is dead right?

Bebbilane said...

Carol: Thanks! I am loving it. It has been great so far.

night.owls.sb said...

Did you all hear about the American Ppl that were trying to take orphans out of Haiti, got arrested and are in jail..

Could this be true? I did not hear the whole incident..

But if it is, it would totally piss me off.. grant you they should not take orphans w/o permission, but with all the help the Americans are giving you would think they would just tell them to leave the country..

Does anyone know the truth in this?

night.owls.sb said...

Bebbi..

Your smoking hot body and your smile is proof that you are enjoying yourself.. Kudos!

Bebbilane said...

Carol: It's true. And, right before I went on vacation I read something about one of them having issues in the past along the same lines. They found that some of the children were not orphans and did have family.

night.owls.sb said...

Bebbi..

So it is true, but some had a shady past.. hmmmm...

I must look into this more..

night.owls.sb said...

can't keep my eyes open..

off to bed..

:O)

Bebbilane said...

I was just trying to find that article about one of the members having issues in the past but can't find it. Some reports say 33 children, others say 100.

Bebbilane said...

http://www.mcclatchydc.com/117/story/83704.html

Just_Lin said...

Thank you all for your comments today. I think the note will stay on my fridge a while longer. On one hand, it intrigues me, but on the other, it seems like a waste of money.

Slani Thank you. :)

SacBarb If I ever do it, I will probably be lazy and call from the comfort of my own home. ;)

DeeDee I'd love to hear more about your experience with this. Oh, and if I was on FB, I'd give you a juniper. ;)

Goldie That's great news about your nephew.

Bear I don't know that it takes a medium to communicate with them so much as it takes someone who is able to "listen", for lack of better term. I think sometimes, if you meditate, you can get answers to a lot of things, much like people get answers through prayer.

Zona I'm confused too. Sometimes I think I should discard the note, then I think I should hold onto it a while longer. Maybe I'm making sure I don't have any unanswered questions. So far, I don't.

Dianne Do it! :) Oh, and Happy Anniversary to you and Mr.D!

Shirley You may be right.

Bebbi Hey, Hot Mama! You look great basking in the sunshine!

Mary I'm intrigued by those mediums, too.

Carol Sweet dreams.

DeeDee said...

Whabbear.....

I have had one friend die that I made a pact with.....we agreed that if he could come back to see me that he would.....and you would have to know Jay but if he could come...he would have been to see me.....

He died from coplications caused by AIDS in 1993.....when the funeral home had him ready for viewing I went with his family and stayed behind when they left......

Once I was alone with him and the funeral home "coast" was clear....I walked to his casket and kind of hit the side with my purse....and I said...where the F' have you been!!?? Are you having to register or something!? I have stayed awake for the last 2 nights WAITING FOR A SIGN!!! (at this point I am questioning his body in a normal tone that keeps getting louder)

I said..."you be at my house tonight or I will know you are never going to make it!

I turned to leave and there was a group of 5 standing in the doorway....looking at me like I was crazy.....

I just walked up to them and introduced myself and they said they worked with Jay in Dallas....

I said I had to go but directed them over to the casket.....I said I hope you have better luck than I did....I couldn't get a word out of him.....

Jay would have loved it!!

Just_Lin said...

DeeDee LOL Did you ever get a sign?