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Monday, March 15, 2010

Grandmothers


by Shirley

First of all I would like to dedicate this blog to Jodi and her Grandma. It was the recent passing of Jodi's Grandma that got me thinking about my own Grammie (Dad's mother) and writing a blog about her.

She was a very compassionate woman and very stubborn. She knew what she wanted and you couldn't change her mind. She was tall, busty and strong. She took in numerous foster children over the years. She played the organ at the local United Church for many years.She lived in a small community called North East Harbour. It was about a half hour drive from where we lived in Shelburne. Everyone knew everyone, and they all helped each other. Every Sunday afternoon (to my mother's dislike) we made the trek out there to see her as well as other relatives.

Her cooking was amazing! She made soft molasses cookies that were almost as thick as biscuits! Her beef barley soup and apple pie were to die for, and her bread...OMG!!! I always remember her wearing a hair net, apron, white sweater and those light brown stockings (usually two pairs) all the older woman wore before pantyhose were invented. She wore glasses and always had rosy cheeks. I remember she always left the clean everyday dishes and cutlery on the table, covered over with a cloth. She did have a hutch that the "good" dishes were kept in.

Grammie recycled before the word recycle was invented! At least that's how it seemed to me. She had jars of buttons, a huge ball of string and boxes of fabric pieces used to either patch something or make quilts. She gave me a quilt a long time ago and I remember some of the fabric pieces as dresses she wore. Grammie had a use for everything. She would remove the paper from the butter, wash it off and use it to wrap up something and put in the frig. She took the label off cans and used them to make grocery lists or notes for herself. If someone gave her a card and they hadn't sealed the envelope she would cut off the sticky parts and use them instead of tape on presents. All of her hymn books were covered with brown paper bags so they wouldn't get ripped or dirty.

Grammie died when I was 13. The last five or so years of her life it was usually only Dad and I who went out there every Sunday. It didn't matter what I did for her she always gave me money. Now mind you it was only a dime or on rare occasions a quarter, but she insisted that people should get paid for their work. I only helped Dad with bringing the wood in and filling the wood box or washing the dishes. or sometimes Grammie would get me to wash her hair. It felt nice to be appreciated.

As I remembered Grammie this past week it made me feel really good. I would love to be able to walk into that kitchen one more time, smell the wood burning in the stove and the food cooking on top of it. Sit down in the rocking chair my grandfather made many years before, hear the clock chime on the mantle over the cot that Grammie took her naps on, and watch as she did a crossword puzzle or watched Oral Roberts on the little black and white TV with rabbit ears. Now that I've shared with you I'd like to hear what you remember about your grandmothers.

Thanks Jodi for always sharing your Grandma with us and inspiring me to write this blog and use your picture. If I can get a picture of my Grammie on the computer I will share it with all of you. Thanks for reading and lets hear those grandmother stories.

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55 comments:

Tina~in_ut said...

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Tina~in_ut said...

Hi pretty green thang~

Tina~in_ut said...

(shhhhhhhhh.....don't tell Lynn I was talking about myself!)~

Lynn D said...

PS I love that picture of Jodi and her Grandmother! You can see the love.

Lynn D said...

Tina did you say you were playing with yourself? Ewwwwwwww

Tina~in_ut said...

Shirley~ That was such a sweet blog~ I don't have many memories of my grandmothers. My dad's mom died way before I was born. I loved my step-grandmother, but they weren't married that long. My mom's mom died when I was little. I remember once telling her that I was thirsty and she said, "No. You're Tina!" It made me laugh. Very sweet blog, lady~

Lynn D said...

Oh I read that again she was just talking to herself! LOL

Morning sweet Tina! Waving at you. Tell Janice hi when you see her.

Lynn D said...

I don't know about anyone else but the time change has me all screwed up this morning and it is really messing with my head.

Tina~in_ut said...

lol Lynn~ I'll tell her hi~ She's already at work....we traded shifts~ :D

Zona said...

Good Morning!

SHIRLEY: I didn't really know my mom's mom very well. She lived in Ohio and didn't move out here to live with us until I was 16..she passed away when I was 18. She was a wonderful cook, and loved to dance..in fact she taught me how to do the Charleston! Before she retired, she worked for a big department store in Cleveland, and I remember her as always having the most stylish shoes and clothes. I wish I would have had more time to get to know her better.

My dad's mom was something else! Boy she had a temper! But she was fiercely loyal to her family, and loved her grand kids like there was no tomorrow. Unlike my mom's mom, she couldn't cook to save her life. I remember my dad telling us how she tried to cook a turkey for Thanksgiving..and forgot to take the bag that contains the neck etc out of the inside! She had a hard life growing up, and I think this contributed to her sense of family. She was also incredibly generous, and was always taking us out for ice cream or to the movies. She never came over without gifts for everyone. She was from Germany, and I can still hear her say "Gimmee kuss" as she puckered up with that hooker red lipstick on! :D

I loved reading about your Grammie, SHIRLEY..and I loved the picture of JODI and her Grandma! Great blog today!

Zona said...

Hello Gorgeous LYNN! My dad's mom used to have us over to her house in the summer too. I still remember it was a yellow two story house..with a porch that circled the second story. My brother and I would sit outside on that porch with grandma and rock in her rocking chairs. When I was about thirty..I brought this wonderful memory up at Christmas dinner. My mother looked at my grandma and said "You promised me you wouldn't let them rock in those chairs on that porch!!" It was so funny..my mom was horrified at the thought of us getting hurt..26 years later...lol..

HI TINA! I won't tell.. ;)

CAROL: I loved the song on Sunday! I really like the way KD Lang sings it the best. Loved her version at the Olympics. I'm going to check out the link you provided too. Thank you!

Well I woke up yesterday and was having a hard time breathing, so Mr Z insisted I go to Urgent Care. I got two shots, a breathing treatment and two RX's. The doctor told me I had "acute bronchitis and severe asthma"..well I knew that, and without the copay! ;)

btw..I don't think the bronchitis is all that cute..ijs.. :D

goldie said...

Good Morning Hooters!

Shirley, that was such a sweet blog, and wonderful that you dedicated it to Jodi and her Grandma.

I only met my grandmothers a few times. My parents both immigrated from Germany and I have no relatives in this country.
I have no lasting memories, other than I disliked and thought my Fathers mother was mean (she was) and that my Mom's Mom had a little farmette and a goose that was mean and tried to attack me.

My Dad's step-mother I knew better and she was wonderful. She was only 6 years older than my Dad and she worked 2 jobs to help put him thru school. She loved him and took care of him when his own biatch of a mother did not. Another story, another day. (Wartime in Germany)

Hope everyone has a good day and Lynn- the time change has me screwed up too.

Di- from yesterday- I am sorry that your daughter is dilusional and thinks JBJ was singing to her and is her boyfriend......... He is already taken...

bonachichi said...

Not so funny, but we never realize what we have until we lose it.

I wasn't particularly close to my grandmothers. One (I loved her dearly), was critical of everything, so I avoided.

I do remember Gramps, though. He had a bad stroke when I was 17 that left him with limited speech. I couldn't understand him. He was to go in for open heart surgery and the day before, he said something un-intelligible to me. He said, "I love you."

Those were the last words he ever said to me, as he passed during the surgery. What I wouldn't give to hug him again and tell him how much he meant to me. I still carry his worry stone with me. Polished smooth by his hand.

bonachichi said...

REMINDER::: Start eating asparagus today so you can celebrate St. Patty's Day with green pee!

Tina~in_ut said...

LynnD~ Janice says hi~ :D

night.owls.sb said...

Happy 1 Lynn...

Morning everyone... hello to Janice!..

night.owls.sb said...

Shirley..

I adore your blog, your grammie sounds wonderful, I love the way you and your dad continued to visit with her. You have made such memories for yourself.. I pictured your grammie in my mind with your words.. so sweet~

Love, the pic of Jodi and her grandmother.. again.. so sweet~

Perfect blog..

Thanks for sharing Shirley..

night.owls.sb said...

I did not read all the comments.. I gotta run..

have a great day!

DeeDee said...

Good morning!!!

Pardon my dancing about and singing...its like Spring here..... :)

Shirley....your Grammie sounds delightful! You are very fortunate!

Reading about her made me want a Grandmother like her....

That generation of women are all but gone.....and "the new" Grandmothers can be wonderful....its just not the same wonderful that you experienced.

I guess a Grandmothers love is the same whether she cooks in a wood burning stove or a microwave....I just REALLY love the picture you painted today....

goldie said...

bona- I ate it yesterday already...

Zonabaaaaaaaaaaaby- get better soon!

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25!!!!!!!!!!

goldie said...

P,S. I wanted to add that never having had a Grandma around growing up- I strive to BE the Grandma I wished I would have had.

This Grandma business is important stuff, IMHO!!

DeeDee said...

I had Grandparents on both sides but I was closest to my Fathers Mother...her name was Annie.

I think I was her favorite because we seemed to favor me over my brothers and sisters. She always referred to my brothers as "oafs"..

One of my brothers called her Grannie Annie once and she shrank him with one of her "looks".....

She liked my Mother but was relentless in her pursuit to get her goat.....
Once after a trip she was handing out the gifts she had gotten for everyone....my Mothers mother was also there.....

Mothers gift was in a paper sack...and when she removed the contents...her Mother remarked..."oh! Napkins...with your initials...how lovely"....

My Mother remarked that it would've been even nicer had our initials been TWA......

Annie was a very elegant woman and she had a wicked sense of humor...so did my Mother....so when they were together the wit and sarcasm was Oscar worthy....

To look at Annie you would see the epitome of grace and refinement...but she would fart with the best em and LHAO about it.

I don't remember much about her food preparation skills...other than the "look" you would get if stated that you might be hungry...

I do remember once asking her to fry me an egg....she had me fetch one and she threw it out the window and it splatted on the concrete...
she said "you had better get a plate! It will be ready soon!"

you see...it was a very hot day...

night.owls.sb said...

Breaking news..

omg.. my parents left the house @ 11a this morning to vist my aunt which is a 25min drive.. 4 hrs later they are home.. they could not get to my aunts cause of flooding,power outages, road closure's.. thank goodness for cell phones, they were taking detours all over, and at one point had no idea where they were.. I got them to a road they were familiar with.. Oh my this storm was a crazy.. rivers are overflowing all over..

Back to reg sked comments..

:O)

DeeDee said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cv-0mmVnxPA&feature=related

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

Tina you are loosing your touch, Lynn D beat you by 11 minutes!

Congrats LynnD!!

Thanks everyone for your kind words about my blog and my Grammie. I never met my mum's mother. She died before I was born. She was pregnant 12 or 14 times but I think only 9 survived. Mum said she was sick quite a bit. I have a picture of her on FB and maybe MS too.

sacBarb said...

Happy Monday Owls.

Shirley, I loved reading about your Grammie. I never knew my paternal grandparents because they lived in Italy. My maternal grandparents came to New York from Italy with my mother when she was four and her brother who was six and they had seven more children.

I didn't know my Grandma that well because we moved to CA when I was four, so I only saw her on our occasional visits to NY or her one visit to CA. My Mom did tell many stories of her however, and I heard many stories from my sister and brother who were 13 & 17 when we moved. The thing I remember most was that she always wore an apron, except when she went to Church. She also spoke very little English, and I didn't speak Italian, so it was very hard to communicate with her. She died in 1963, only four months after my Grandfather.

sacBarb said...

Lynn, You beat Tina by a mile today. Congrats.

Tina, Love your St. Pat's attire.

Zona, I hope the meds are getting you on the road to recovery.

Goldie, I guess you didn't know that JBJ spent the night with me when he played Sac. before he went to Vegas.

Carol, I have been wondering if you were affected by the terrible storm over the weekend. Glad to hear your parents got home safely.

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

Thanks Lynn D, Tina, Zona, Goldie, Bonachichi, Carol, and DeeDee for shring your stories with us!

Jodi said...

SHIRLEY - What a great blog about your Grammy!! And thank you for asking to use my picture. I want to thank you all for your friendship and support during the last few weeks. Grandma's funeral was beautiful on Saturday. A very fitting sending off for a beautiful lady. My Grandma J lived on the farm her and my Grandfather bought til she was 88. So many memories of time spent at the farm. Some of my favorites involve food. She grew grapes and made her own grape jelly. In the fall she would go to the orchard for apples and make homemade applesauce. And during the holidays she made all our favorite Norwegian goodies....lefse, crumkake, and rosettes!!! She always had a smile, a cup of coffee, and a story when you came to visit. And of course when we played euchre...she was the one that liked to sit in the weeds and trump you. You could always tell, because she would just sit there and tap her cards!!!

My Grandma H was a hardworking farm wife. My Grandpa raised chickens, so she was the one that picked the eggs. She grew her own strawberries and made strawberry jam. My Grandparents were first married during the depression, so it was a little sad that they held onto their money and didn't enjoy themselves more.

SHIRLEY - Thanks again for today's blog.

I'll be back later to read all the comments. Time for Mom's taxi to pick kids up.

Lani said...

Such a wonderful blog full of warm memories SHIRLEY. I love hearing family stories and looking at photographs.

My maternal grandmother died when my mother was in her teens, however, stories my mother told me about her, along with her beautiful picture, made me feel like I knew her, and I have fond feelings toward her.

My paternal grandmother was a tough old bird. She would say she wasn't feeling up to par and proceed to go out and build a rock garden or tar the roof. We celebrated many holidays with her. She was a great cook. We would stuff ourselves, then go into the livingroom with the fireplace, going and the men would fall asleep snoring and drooling.

Lani said...

I will come back later and read the comments when it is quiet here.

Maureen said...

SHIRLEY...what a touching and beautiful blog / tribute to your Grammy. I could hear the love you two shared in your written words.

I never knew any of my grandparents. All 4 had passed away before I was born.

In Yiddish, we say Bubbie for grandmother. My cousin Elaine has become everyone's Bubbie, so sometimes I too call her that!!

ZONA...if you ever remember what department store your Grandma worked at, let me know!

LYNN...you look exceptionally beautiful today!

JODI...your grandmother was certainly a beautiful woman.

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

Thanks Lani, SacBarb, Maureen and Jodi for sharing more grandmother stories with us.

As I reread my blog I realized that Grammies "recycling" was a sign of poor times, but also a sign of great riches, because it left me with things I can't buy...memories.

Good night everyone! Thanks again Jodi and Carol.

(((((HUGS))))) to everyone hurting physically and emotionally.

Bebbilane said...

Congrats on first LynnD~!

Shirley: Wow, awesome blog. I loved your descriptions and stories of your grandma. So sweet.

Bebbilane said...

Jeez Carol, I am so glad your parents made it home safely. What a horrible storm! I was looking at the pictures on CNN..omg, terrible!

Bebbilane said...

You might want to delete "lady" comments. It might be a link to a virus.

Bebbilane said...

bonachichi: I thought it would just make you have stinky pee..not green..haha

Bebbilane said...

My grandparents on my mother's side were really awesome. They had an orchard and a grape harbor, cherry trees. My grandfather would get go carts together and let us ride them. Well, until my cousin ran into a big junk pile and got a little hurt. They had an antique shop and were the coolest grandparents. My grandmother got married at 13 years old and had my mom and 4 other children.

My grandmother on my fathers side was wonderful but she favored my brother and I never really felt like she liked me that much. But, she was nice to me and all. I think I just really noticed her favoritism to the boys in the family.

Bebbilane said...

My Dad's mom used to love to bird watch and when I was 15 I cross stitched a robin picture for her. After she died I got it back and it hangs in my kitchen.

Bebbilane said...

Gosh Zona, take care of yourself. That bronchitis is bad stuff. We have had something going around the office that has caused a bad cough. I still have it in the mornings and it is SO IRRITATING!

Tina~in_ut said...

Dang DeeDee~ I LOVE that song....and movie~

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bonachichi said...

Just got back from a job. A blog-worthy job. Right now I just want to read comments and enjoy my high from a job well done.

Good Night, Hooters!

bonachichi said...

Shirley, btw... You are beautiful!

bonachichi said...

Zona, I'm no doctor, but I'd be careful about turning your body into a chemistry lab. I found out today that doc receive "thank you" gifts in the forms of vacations, etc, for prescribing a certain quota of certain drugs.

Be careful what you're taking. You might not need it and it might cause serious side effects when mixed with other chemicals you're ingesting. Mum took 40+ pills a day. You can't tell me they didn't react badly when mixed in her system.

whabbear said...

Great grammie stories today, starting with Shirley's!

My maternal grandmother died in 1987, so she was a member of my family right up until I moved to California. There are pictures of her and her sister out here in the Bay Area, courtesy of a trip they took back in the 1960's. Interesting... they would have had no idea of the social changes fermenting back then that would so drastically influence her grandson's life!

Just_Lin said...

LynnD Congrats on being the first green beauty today.

Tina Only second place today, but a green beauty, just the same.

Shirley That was a really beautifully written blog. I felt like I was right there with your grandmother. What wonderful memories you have! Thank you for sharing them with us.

My maternal grandmother lived in Florida and we moved to California when I was four years old so I didn't know her well. She was a small woman with really long hair that she kept in a net during the day but braided in one long plait at bedtime. She used to write letters to me and at the end of each, she would tape dimes using white bandaging tape. I wish I would have saved all those letters but I only have one. She was also a painter and would paint scenes similar to Grandma Moses, usually very small, like postcard size. I don't remember my paternal grandmother at all but I am told that she was very sweet and rather refined. She also lived in Florida and died in an auto accident while moving to California when I was very young.

Jodi That is such a precious photo of you and your grandmother. I can see the love. (((HUGS)))

Mary/MI said...

Good evening everyone.I am so mad at myself for not having my puter on today. I missed a great blog! I was determined to get a project done, and I had some shopping to do.

Shirley, I loved seeing Jodi and her Grandma as soon as I checked in. What a sweet picture!

Jodi,What great memories of her.

I have enjoyed reading everyone's stories.

I don't have a lot of memories of my Maternal Grandmother. She lived in Texas and was too poor to visit us in Michigan. I remember visiting her when I was very little. She lived in a tiny stucco house. She didn't have a bathtub, so she put us in a round metal tub that was outside by the house and scrubbed the hell out of us lol!

My Paternal Grandma was tiny and feisty! She was very religious and had "that look" when she even thought you did something wrong! She was a great cook. I remember her making piles of tortillas and a wonderful Spanish dish called chicken mole`. She lived with my Dad's sister as long as I can remember. I can still hear my Aunt say as we walked int the door (with a frown & in Spanish)I bet they are hungry as usual! It always made me feel bad. She never liked my Mother, so I wasn't too close to her. She (my Aunt) is still alive and ornery as ever lol! Her sister is older and still kicking. I believe they are 85 & 95.
I have always tried to be a good Auntie. I never wanted my Grandchildren or nieces & nephews to see "that look" or be made to feel bad about themselves.

Just_Lin said...

Sweet dreams, HOoters!

Just_Lin said...

Sweet dreams, HOoters!