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Monday, May 11, 2009

Advice or Opinion?


by Mary/MI

Last week I had my hair done where I have been going for years. I have only switched hairdressers 2 or 3 times. One gal I have known there has had her 3rd baby since she used to be my stylist. I had not seen the picture of her last baby who is 3 months old now. On my last visit I asked about her children. She said they were fine and mentioned her baby photo book. I told her I would look after having my hair done. When I was done she offered her album. I took it and found an area that was not busy. I looked at the photos. There were some of her older children. Then I saw her newborn. I had no idea he had a very bad cleft pallet. It covered a great deal of his nose. I didn't know if she was watching me because she was doing someone's hair. I took my time, composed my self and took the album back to her. I congratulated her on her new baby and told her she had a beautiful family. The baby was a precious gift and beautiful in spite of its deformity. My question is, did I react right? Should she have taken me aside and mentioned it to me? Should I have said something? What would you have done?

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Lynn D said...

Ha the extra coffee paid off this morning!

ibebold said...

I was watching the video from yesterday!!!!
and the new blog went up and LynnD was here!!!!
Congrats on 1st!!!!!

Hope everyone has a great day...

ibebold said...

Mary...
WOW... I think you handled it well... parents don't see anything wrong with a child of theirs that has this... so they don't think to bring attention to it... hope that makes sense..

Lynn D said...

Morning Glories!

Mary what you did was perfect. You congratulated her on her new baby and let her now that it was beautiful. Her baby is beautiful even tho they face challenges. I am sure she is aware of this but she loves that child no matter what and that is why she shared her baby album.

Lynn D said...

Good morning IBB!

goldie said...

Good Morning Hooters! Congrats on 1st Lynn!

Mary- I think you handled it the absolute best way possible. You told her she had a beautiful family. Regardless of what challenges the baby was born with- all babies are beautiful and loved by their parents. KUDOS on the great way you helped that women.
She probably loves nothing more than to have her children treated equally- and you provided that.

Had a lovely Mother's Day. Brunch was great and picked up my basket. It was loaded with, wine, spotted cow beer (for Jodi), honey,candle, chocolate,Lang address book, seasoned salt, a wooden yo-yo, taffy, beer cheese soup mix, beer batter mix, cranberry jams, cinnamon-cranberry bread mix, bbq sause with door county cherries, gourmet coffee and chai tee. Carmel Corn made with real Maple syrup, body bar lotion, and I can't remember the rest! The basket is really nice and heavy too- so we are guessing it was about 100.00 retail. Wahoo!!! All Wisconsin made products.

Now that was a nice door prize!

Hope everyone has a nice day.g

MEK in AZ said...

Happy Monday!!

Lynn - congrats on FIRST..

IBB - good morning..

Goldie - you are making me REALLY hungry!! Glad your day was good!!!

Mary - I think you reacted in a very honest and caring way - and I agree with Lynn - perfect!! Thanks for sharing..

safe travels to Mary and Dianne

I hope everyone has an excellent day!!
:-)

Tinkatia said...

Good Morning Lynn - Congrats once again on being first.

Tinkatia said...

Good Morning Ibebold - I agree. Mary handled the situation beautifully. That wasn't an easy one.

Tinkatia said...

Good Morning Goldie - It sounds like you had a wonderful Mother's day. Are you sharing the basket with the rest of the nest? Just wondering.

Tinkatia said...

Good Morning Mek - Are we racing again? I had better get started

Tinkatia said...

Mek - I didn't think I would make it. My MacBook is slow today. I am rather tired so I don't think I will be racing you for 50.

Tinkatia said...

Mary - That was a great blog. As I said to Ibebold you answered beautifully. I don't know if I could have had the presence of mind to say the right thing. Sometimes one means well but it doesn't come out right.

Tinkatia said...

I had a fantastic Mother's Day. I think today is a lazy day. I am going for a facial at the spa at ten. I will be back later.
Have a great day everyone.

Just_Lin said...

Good Morning, Owls.

LynnD That's right, rub it in! You had extra cawfee and I can't have any as I had to fast for some blood work being done today. :(

Tinka Nice little march you had there.

Mary It sounds like you handled things perfectly fine.

I am really missing my cawfee this morning. After I get my blood drawn, I'm going to go get breakfast and some hot cawfee.

BBL

sacBarb said...

Happy Monday Owls. I hope everyone had a nice weekend.

Mary, I think you reacted perfectly. I hope I would have the grace to react as you did in the same situation. I'm sure the Mom was as proud of her new baby as the rest of her family and you gave her the opportunity to show it off. Good job.

Goldie, That is some basket. I must have missed something. How did you win the basket?

MEK, Good morning. I hope you are having a better day today. ☺ ♥♥♥

Tinka, congrats on 25 and enjoy your spa day.

IBB, I hope you are having a pain free day today.

Waving to Carol and all the other Owls.

The hunky electrician is here again to finish plastering the hole he had to make in the side of the house. And the cabinet guy is on his way to install the final door in the kitchen. I'm a very lucky girl.

East Bay J said...

Good morning!

Mary, I agree with everyone else, you handled it perfectly.

The mother is obviously very proud of her child as she should be. Her heart was undoubtedly filled with joy as you complimented her family.

Hope you have a fun, safe trip! Do you share the driving with Mr. Mary?

Good luck with the blood tests JL!

I just had my morning cawfee, a little late but sure hits the spot.

Our temp is supposed to be about 80 again today. I may go to nursery at Walmart and find some pretty flowers to plant.

We are going to visit little Nancy later this afternoon, so I will put some updated pics of her on MS after we get home!

Hope everyone has a great day today!

Jodi said...

MARY - I think you handled the situation perfectly!!

GOLDIE - Save the Spotted Cow for me!!! You can have the rest!!! lol!!

LYNN D - Congrats on first....yes, it is amazing what some CAWFEE will do for a gal!!

SACBARB - So, are you going to have a threesome?!!? Lucky girl!!!

Waving a wing @ the HOmek sisters and our dear TINKA!!!

Naptime....who knew that Mother's Day weekend could be so taxing?!!?

Jodi said...

LYNN D - I hope you don't mind, but I posted your quote on my ms page.....I LOVE IT!!! And you!!

Jodi said...

Good grief....JUST SLIN....I totally didn't mean to leave you out!! And sorry I tortured you this morning with my CAWFEE!!

EBJ - Enjoy the visit with Nancy...she is so cute!!!

Lani said...

Good morning to all my OWL mates. I hope everyone is having a healthy and happy day.

Even though I haven't blogged in a while I still think about all of you and care about you.

MARY - I think you and your hairdresser both had the perfect attitude. Yours was a very wise and loving response.

Lani said...

Yesterday my son in law cooked dinner for us. He really did slave over a hot stove and the dinner was wonderful. He fixed chicken, mashed potatoes, zucchini, carrots and beans, and a tomato and cucumber salad and rolls.
Georgina is changing by the day. I am making a scrapbook for Jennifer.

SLIN - I hope you are enjoying your cawffee just about now.

BARB - You must be in HUNK HEAVEN. I see a lot of kitchen touch ups in your future. :)

HUGS to LYNN, GOLDIE, MEK, TINK, JODIE, SLIN, BARB,IBB, EBJ & ALL WHO ARRIVE.

sacBarb said...

Hi Lani, I bet you are having fun with Georgina.

Jodi, Both hunks are gone now, but it was fun while they were here.

Where's Tina today??? Probably out driving her new car! Oh wait, she has company, she is probably in the bathroom.

Zona, have you come out from under the bed yet??

Just_Lin said...

SacBarb LOL @ Tina hiding in the bathroom. Her in-laws probably think she has some kind of medical problem.

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My family is driving me nuts!!!!!!!!

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someone shoot me now please!!!!!

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Sorry for the tedious marching folks but I need to walk off some steam!!!!!!!

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Congrats on 1st Lynn D!!

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Mary I thought you handled the situation very well. Congrats on a great blog!!! Enjoy your trip!

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Hi IBB!

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Hi Goldie!

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Hi Mek and Tinka!!

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Hi Jodi, Lani and Sacbarb!!

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Zona Come out from under the bed!!

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Tina come out of the bathroom!!
Nice car too!!

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Hi Maureeen!

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Hi Carol!! How was your cawfee today!

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Sacbarb who had the biggest tool belt...the electrician or the carpenter!!??

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Have a nice trip Dianne!!

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