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Monday, June 21, 2010

~ Raising a Racist ~

by Tina~in_ut

My nephew and brother came over to my mom's house after school while I was there.  I told my nephew that I'd help him with his homework if he needed me to.  How hard could the 4th grade be?!  He had to take a practice spelling test and I gave him that and then corrected it.  He said he was done and I asked him if he was sure he had no other homework.  He paused and I knew I had him! (you don't raise 3 kids w/o understanding the pause!)  He told me that he had extra credit in science, but he wasn't going to do it.  I asked him why because I always made my kids do their extra credit.  He said that it was only worth 5% and that he didn't like his teacher.  I told him that he could go from a B+ to an A- with that extra credit, but he didn't care.

By this time, he was in the other room with my sister (the teacher), so I let her take over.  She wanted to know why he didn't like his teacher.  He said that he yells at the kids.  My sister wanted to know what he was doing to deserve getting yelled at.  "Nothing!" was his answer. By the time my sister was done with him, we all knew that the kids talk in class and they get in trouble.  What I didn't see coming was my nephews next words: "I don't like him.  He's Asian and everyone knows Asian's are mean!" 

My jaw dropped!  I waited for my sister to let him have it.  Nothing!  I found out later that she had left the room and had no idea that he had said that.  I looked at my brother.  "Did he say what I think he said?", I asked.  My bro wasn't paying any attention and asked what his son had said.  I told him and he shook his head, rolled his eyes and said, "He's a racist! He gets this from his mother!"  No sooner had those words left his mouth and here comes my nephew who starts hitting my brother in the arm and yelling, "I'm not a racist!"  My brother looked at me and said, "He doesn't like blacks or Mexicans either!"  I didn't know whether to laugh or cry!  I couldn't believe it.  I know my SIL is freaking crazy, but this is unconscionable.  My nephew is more Mexican than I am!  He's 3/4's and I'm only 1/2~  My youngest told me that when my nephew was here last month, he said something like that to him as well.  I thought he must have misunderstood!    

Who in their right mind teaches their kid something so awful?  She teaches him that he's "American."  He tells people he's not Mexican.  Oh wait.....I mean, "a lazy Mexican!"  I got mad at my brother for allowing it, but then I remember that he gave up trying to make her do anything a long time ago.  They don't get along at all anymore and won't last much longer.  She won't listen to anything any of us have to say.  No....that's not right.  She pretends to listen.  Rotten wench.  I just want to take that kid and have him live here all summer just to get him away from her!  I told my kids that if they ever hear him say anything along those lines again, to let him have it!  They agreed that they will. 

Can you even fathom in this day and age someone purposely brainwashing their kid like that?  I guess you could say the same thing to me about Catholicism, but I don't teach my kids hate in any way, shape, or form.  Okay....I lied!  I teach them to hate the Lakers......but that's justified! :)~

40 comments:

Tina~in_ut said...

perdy~

DeeDee said...

First!!! [ignoring cheatress]

Mary/MI said...

3rd !
ignoring the above ahem, Ladies.

Mary/MI said...

lol, I should have yelled FIRST!!

Mary/MI said...

We leave for Vegas in a few hrs. or I would nor have already shit showered and shaved!!

Tina,that is sad the way your Nephew is being raised. My boys are Mex/Irish. They have NEVER shunned the Irish part...lol!!
I better get going, one more bag to pack!

DeeDee said...

the way I see it is that this is all your brothers fault for marrying her....spawning....and then staying married.

Now it is left to you and sister to fix it.....my suggestion is to find a seculded place at the beach and bury her up to her neck. I know from seeing her photos that she doesn't actually have a neck....so bury here standing up to the area that would be her neck.
Pour Karo syrup over her head saturating the hair throughly and making a nice coating on any exposed skin.
Use a small air cannon (borrow from Bonachichi)....fill with birdseed and fire it at her head until it is covered with the seed and let bake in the sun for 2 hours.
Serves dozens of sea gulls and all the other creatures that scavenge the beach.
Discard head after 4 days.....

Mary/MI said...

What DeeDee said,,,

I knew she would have words of wisdom worth coming back for lol!!

Really signing off this time.....

Tina~in_ut said...

L M B O ! ! ! ! ! ! omg!!! can't breathe!!! O M G ! ! ! ! ~

Tina~in_ut said...

safe travels, Mary~

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

Tina your brother needs to remove his child from that enviroment, or it's only going to get worse. One day he is going to say the wrong thing to the wrong person and get the shit kicked out of him. As far as your SIL goes...well she just need some major mental health therapy!

Morning Tina, DeeDee and Mary (have a great time in Vegas!).

Zona said...

Good Morning!

TINA: The first thing I thought of when I started reading your blog was 'Omg..TINA's sil is still at it!' I really thought she might mellow out a bit..nope..seems she hasn't! I agree with you..you need to get your nephew out of that environment..it's not good for him at all. He's at a very impressionable age which works against you in some ways..but for you in others. You can still unbrainwash him and teach him that what his mother has told him is wrong! It saddens me to think that some parents are teaching their children to be racist..why would you hurt a child that way? It makes no sense to me. I sure hope that somehow..someway..you can reverse the damage your sil has done to her son.

My cousin is Italian, Russian and Native American. He came over one day and we were talking about the casinos here in AZ..his mother just loved going there. He suddenly said.. "I can't stand Indians!" I was speechless..not an easy thing for me to be. I said "But you are part Indian!" "No I'm not" he answered. "Yes...you...are!" He shook his head and you could almost see him squaring his shoulders and setting into the spot where he stood..ready for a fight. "NO..I'm not!" I was so confused. How could he deny part of himself? How could he deny his children their heritage..and why would he? I love my cousin..he's intelligent and kind..which makes this all the more baffling. I've tried to talk to him since then about it..but he shuts the conversation down cold. I simply do not understand him..I guess I never will.

I feel the same way about racism..I don't understand it..and it seems I never will.

Zona said...

TINA: Dang little lady ain't you just pertinear too perdy fer words!! ;)

MARY: Good Luck in Vegas! I hope you packed light..it's going to be a scorcher! Pool time!! :D

DEEDEE: Sheesh..I hope I never piss you off..LOL! ;)

SHIRLEY: Somehow I don't think even therapy would work!!

Well..it's the first day of summer..I guess I should go get prepared for the heat..HA!! :D

Have a good day everyone..and to those of you enjoying nice cool temps..thpppttzzz.. ;P....:D

Dianne/Denver said...

Good Morning....first....oh guess not, just seems that I would be getting up so darn early!

TINA: I am not overly fond of your SIL. Maybe your nephew could come and stay at least a couple of weeks with you over the summer and your kids could talk to him. You know how they always listen to older cousins.

MARY: Have lots of fun with my money.

NOTE: Yesterday I received a picture from MARY showing her Bronco car freshener hanging on the grill of the front of her car to get that mouse smell out. I am not crazy about a Bronco item being used for mice, poop bag, etc., but the wonderful aroma may just do the trick!! She made me laugh and laugh when I received the photo.

DEEDEE: You come up with the best ideas. I'm with ZONA though....I hope I never piss you off!!! Between bird seed, toasters and guns...You are my new best friend!!!

ZONA; Glad to see you celebrating the first day of summer. My one week away from 10 GD is celebrating big today....she gets to shave her legs. She tricked her mom as it was supposed to be when she turned 10 but without thinking my daughter mentioned she could do it when summer got her. Well GD jumped on that ....as it is six days before she turns 10!

SHIRLEY: Good morning...I wish I had some of your gingerbread pancakes now. I sure hope you will be helping out MRD with the cooking over the next couple of months.

Good morning/afternoon to all the owls and hope your first day of summer is wonderful.

DeeDee said...

want to see some racist and highly bigoted stuff? Google and read the Texas GOP 2010 Platform!!

These crazy mo@!er fu*!ers are evil!!

iteach said...

Your blog today reminded me of something that has been heavy on my mind.

Last night I was reading our rinky dink local paper and I just about passed out. I don't know why, I shouldn't be surprised, but another letter to the editor from a local yokel that is ignorant.

It all started a month ago with the town next to me , Sterling, made it a requirement for all high schoolers to take one year of Spanish. Well, that didn't sit well with too many people. I love to hear a good arguement and hear both sides. However, it was just plain stupidity that has come out of their month so far.

The guy last night said that he is darn sick and tired of the High School, because they were forcing his child to speak Spanish.

He said that we are not here to cater to "those" people. He said we need to help keep the American way of life the way it was meant to be.

To be cont.....

iteach said...

So I googled the American way of life. Do you know that on a federal level we do not have an official language for our country?

Now on the state level it varies from state to state. Some states have adopted English has their official language and other states have adopted multiple languages as their offical state language.

So I really don't know what he means by the "American Way of Life". I was so disappointed by his arguement when it took me all of two minutes to shoot down his theory.

I wanted to write a letter back, but I didn't. I will just make sure I send him a Christmas card in Italian this year. :)

Lynn D said...

Morning Glories!

Tina your so beautiful!

Sorry I am a little late this morning I had errands to run.

Tina sadly I can see people doing this because of all of the crazies I see in the news. If you take a moment and look what is happening in Arizona you see the hatred and racist crap running rampant. I see it here with some of the locals.

The worst part is she is teaching him to hate himself. To me this is just another form of abuse. imho

The only advice I can give you is that in your house, it is your house rules. When he makes comments like that you flat out tell him (in front of his mother) that you will not stand for that kind of talk and remind him that his family is Mexican and so is he. If she has a fit oh well your house your rules.

I really love that you are enlisting your kids to help teach him. Usually cool cousins can lead the way.

Tina~in_ut said...

you guys....my SIL is a wench and a 1/2....when I get back to cussing, remind me to tell you what i REALLY think of her!!!~ She's evil! Thanks for all ur comments~ AND HELL TO THE NO if she's coming back to my house!!!~

Tina~in_ut said...

Jennifer~ You reminded me of my MIL!!!! When we speak Spanish in front of her....and mind you...it's a word here or a word there....not by any means a conversation....she says, "I don't speak that stuff!" and calls us rude! I finally stood up for my daughter and told her that it's good for the kids to practice because they are learning it in school! They aren't in Honors Spanish for nothing, the wench!!!

Tina~in_ut said...

I need new relatives~

Jodi said...

TINA - I can't even wrap my head around what she is doing to your nephew!! I agree with LYNN....it is abuse!!!

Waving a wing at everyone!! Making supper, then off to Jake's baseball game.

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

Oh oh oh !!!!! Tina...you whooooo...over here!!!!
***waving madly***

Can I be your relative? We could be twin sisters!! How about it!?! When do you want me to move in?

Dianne/Denver said...

TINA: I will be your relative too...SHIRLEY, we could be triplets!!!

JENNIFER: It is great to see you today. Looks like you are getting ready to do some painting. I am not too crazy to paint. maybe you could have a painting party and buy pizza!!

Ok....back to work

Lynn D said...

Holy Crap!!

I received my mammogram reminder in the mail Saturday. So I dutifully called today to make my appt.....

I can't get in until Fucking August!

August 27th and the woman says to me is that day good for you? WTF??

I said to her "Hell I don't know if next Tuesday would be good for me and you want me to make a decision about August 27th? Then I finally asked her what day is that? It's a Friday.

So um yeah, I guess that day would be good for me.

Then she says we just want to remind you no deodorant or soap use before the mammogram. So I decided to screw with her and said "I can't use soap or Deodorant until August 27th?? My husband and everyone I know might have a problem with that!"

She flusterd and flowndered and stammered until I told her I was joking.

Freaking August 27th. If they really want us to have these damn things done they should not give us any wiggle room and book them in a day or so. Geeeeez

Tina you SIL is a bitch! The more I think about that situation the more I want to fly down there and bitch slap her about 20 times.

bonachichi said...

I just read the blog... Holy CRAP! Put that woman in the Pizza Oven. Your bro needs to slap her around a bit. It wouldn't be abuse, it'd be a public service.

Shirley(NCC-1701) said...

***quickly backs out of the room while Lynn D vigorously types away on the computer***

sacBarb said...

Happy Monday Owls.

Tina, It is so sad that your SIL is teaching your nephew to be a racist. Even sadder is that if your brother and she don't make it, it might get worse. If she gets custody, she will have even more time with him to reinforce her prejudices. Too bad your brother doesn't stand up to her. Have you invited your nephew to spend some time with you in the summer? He might like it.

BTW, You sure are purdy today.

bonachichi said...

Well, Jennifer/iteach really gave me something to think about. I didn't know the USA didn't have an official language.

Tina, I don't think your SIL is racist; She hates everybody.

sacBarb said...

DeeDee, Luv your recipe for revenge. I'm with Zona and Dianne.

Dianne, Why is it that young girls can't wait to shave their legs? She'll be doing it for a loooong time.

Jennifer, Good to see your post. LOL @ sending a Xmas card in Italian.

Lynn, REALLY? You had to TELL her you were kidding?

Mary, Good luck, although you're probably already gone and won't see this.

Hey Jodi, did you get a tan on those legs Saturday?

Waving wildly at all the other Owls. Gotta go check the crops. BBL

Bebbilane said...

Hey Tina: perdy you! Great blog..so sad that he is being raised that way. :(

Hello Mary, DeeDee, Shirley, Kathy, Di, Jennifer, LynnD, Jodi, SacB ....and BONACHICHI>damn girl, where you been?<

bonachichi said...

DeeDee, I do have a spare air cannon or two, but you all can make your own with some plumbing supplies and a compressor you can easily "borrow" from a neighbor's refrigerator. Just keep the psi down, or you will get a most unpleasant surprise. Unless it's to be used on Tina's SIL. Then we'll max it.

bonachichi said...

Hiya, Bebbi! You caught me. I was in in Urbana, IL last week, and have met up with my daughter in "The Hamptons". I'm sure you'll all agree that I fit right in with the upper-class crowd. You know, with my good manners, demure demeanor and all. I think they want to murder me.

Jodi said...

BARB - My legs are only slightly less white than before...at least I didn't get burnt!!

JENNIFER!!! Can't wait to see you on Thursday!! Band geeks unite ♥

Just got back from Jake's game. It got called for lightening and now there's a tornado warning for north of here. Gonna wrap this up for the night.....AUNTIE EM!!!!!!

iteach said...

Dianne, I'm having a dumpster party first before the painting one. The big dumpster arrived and I'm filling it to the rim.

Jodi, I'm very excited to be going to the band show with you. I've been hiding in my house for too long.

Bebbilane said...

Bonachichi: I think you could fit in anywhere...if you only wanted to. :) haha. Glad to see you..!

Lynn D said...

Hey everyone!

Yes Sacbarb, I had to tell her I was joking. I was kind of shocked and then I remembered they deal with all kinds of stupidity at medical facilities. So she probably thought I was serious.

Maureen said...

Good evening feathered friends!

TINA...maybe you, DIANNE, SHIRLEY and me can be quadruplets!

I have no words that haven't already been said about your SIL. She is abusing your nephew AND your brother. I'm sorry to say this, but your brother should be ashamed of himsel for knowing this is happening and allowing it. Sorry.

DEE DEE...sorry I didn't post to your blog yesterday. This piece 'o shit I call a computer was giving me grief.

LYNN...if you didn't use soap or deodorant from now till 8.27, even I would smell it over here!! You crack me up!

MARY...hope your travels went smoothly and hope you have a GREAT time!

DIANNE...I couldn't wait to shave my legs and my mom said I had to be 13. Of course I snuck my bro's razor and did it anyhow. Dulled the blade and he would ut his face up all the time! Finally my mom relented and bought me an eletric shaver!

Maureen said...

JENNIFER...nice to see you! I have been thinking about you a lot lately. {{{hugs}}} to you and the kids

Just_Lin said...

Sorry I'm here so late again.

Tina Just because you're pretty doesn't mean you can't give your brother a smack for being so "hands off" in the raising of his son. Your SIL is turning your nephew into a racist and your brother is is letting it go on as if he has no responsibility. Maybe I'm wrong on that but that's how it appears. As has been mentioned, she's also teaching him self-hatred. What damage she must be doing to his psyche. Some people should not have children.

DeeDee LOL @ cheatress. I love how you call 'em as you see 'em.

Mary Safe travels and have a great time. I hope you win lots of money.

Shirley Hello, Sunshine! How's your mum doing?

Zona Isn't that interesting that your cousin denies his American Indian heritage? Everyone I've ever known who was part Indian was extremely proud of that fact. Is it because it means he is not 100% caucasian?

Dianne I remember being very anxious about starting to shave my legs. I guess it's kind of a rite of passage into womanhood. I don't remember how old I was, just that I first was allowed to do it when I was going to model some summer clothes for a local department store. I think I had just turned 11.

Jennifer I have no idea what people mean by "the American way of life" either. Owning slaves used to be the American way of life for some people.

LynnD You mean you don't have every day through August all planned out? LOL When I had my mammogram, I was just told not to use deodorant or powders, I think because there are minerals in those that could "light up" on the imaging. They didn't say anything to me about soap that I recall.

Jodi I hope Jake's team won. : ) My daughter is in Milwaukee tonight and they were having a tornado warning.

Bonach Hey, there you are! Does your daughter hang with the people in the Hamptons? I'm glad you were visiting, though. If I recall correctly, you've mentioned a sometime rocky relationship with her.

SacBarb How about we do take a trip to Vegas and coordinate it with Mary's next trip? Maybe her good luck will rub off on us. Either that, or she'll get on a losing streak and hate us. :(

Bebbi Waving at you. I hope you're still feeling perky.

Jennifer It's so good to see you here. (((HUGS)))

MO I used to love my electric razor. I'd shave my legs while sitting on the floor in my bedroom, probably with a Paul Anka LP playing on my portable record player. Ah, those were such innocent and simple days back then.

Just_Lin said...

What a long-ass post. I really should remember to break those up.